I'll not start with how bad things have gotten, how much I long to feel that connection because let's face it, we're both here for the same reason... To feel that sense of validation, to feel wanted and needed, cared about, thought about.

All these posts that say "I'm not looking to change your situation..." Well I am! I want to change the way you feel. Help you feel that excitement again as your phone pings into life, the anticipation of an unread message that awaits you first thing in the morning, or to feel that virtual hug as your drift off to sleep in my arms, to feel desired and appreciated. To know that you are in someone's thoughts, that they dream of being with you, and dare I say, love you.

A little about me... I'm attached, not married. I used to be, but that marriage ended and I'm now with someone else. I do care about them, but there is still something that's missing, an emptiness that only a special connection with someone can bring. Sure, we could all wait, hoping that special someone walks into our lives, but the cold harsh reality is that they seldom do. I've been lucky to experience that once, the intoxicating feelings that a connection like that can bring, but it ended and I ache to feel that way again. It's a tall order I'll admit, but believe me it's a magical feeling when you find it.

I live in NZ, so time differences can potentially be an issue, but I do work shifts that allow me to be available to communicate most of any given day. I'm not a native of NZ though. I'm from the UK originally so I still have the accent despite having lived here now for nearly 20 years. Just in case accents are your thing, should phone chats (or video) ever become a possibility or desire. Now I know that in an online environment, someone's appearance isn't as important as an emotional connection, but I'll be honest and say that I'm a big guy, but I have an even bigger heart. At 6'4 with a trimmed beard and eyes the colour of the ocean, I've been told that I'm pretty good looking, but I know for some, a physical attraction is important, so I would hate for anyone one to think I'm ripped or anything, lol. Think more dad bod!

I know that life happens. Kids, work, commitments... All these things that fill our daily lives can consume us, but it's important to find a little happiness for ourselves each day, and if you can find that through sharing those moments with someone else, both the mundane and intimate, that's such an amazing feeling. I'd love to hear how your day went, how the lady at the counter pissed you off and console you. Tell me what excites you, what upsets and annoys you. Walk me through the beautiful garden that is your mind, your life, and let me hold your hand. Whether you want to vent, curl up on the couch together, or slip between the sheets, I want to be right there with you holding you in my thoughts.

I want you to be the one I think about all day. I hope to hear from you soon so we can discover each other, fill the void that exists, and find our happiness again.