I was here for more righteous reasons. A lacklustre sex life at home, missing that spark and feeling of desire, and a continuous journey of self-discovery where romantic connections with new people feel good and fulfilling and exciting. 

And the thing is, I still am. I want engaging and entertaining conversations, I want to find you funny, I want to become a little obsessed with you, and I want us to learn from one another and create something unique and magical. I don’t want to jump into sex right away, despite what this prompt might sound like. 

There’s still no way to justify what we’re doing here, no matter what stories we tell ourselves. I never want to be with someone who hates their spouse, if anything it’s the opposite, I want us to celebrate all the great things about our partners even if there might be things missing. It’s very normal that your life partner can’t satisfy every single need, after all.

And despite all that, despite wanting to be a better person than this, I just can’t help but admit that there are aspects of cheating that are undeniably, inescapably hot. To name a few:

• The intimacy and trust that comes from being each other’s worst secret
• When you make far more effort for me than for him. You dress up and wear lingerie every time you see me, when was the last time you took the time to dress up for him?
• Sexual experiences that you have with me that you’ve never had with him. I love knowing that we’ve given each other experiences that he might never get. 
• Knowing that you get wetter, moan louder, and cum harder for me than for him

This is onlineaffairs, so perhaps we’ll never meet in real life and get to make any of those things a reality, or maybe the stars will align and we will. But if any of this resonates with you, then we have plenty to talk about. 

But before we get to that, I want to know all about you. Tell me what you’ve been up to recently, tell me a secret, tell me about your friends, what opinion of yours would make it to the front page of r/unpopularopinion, and have you already started navigating the politics of which family you’ll spend the most time with at Christmas?

Me: intellectually curious, open-minded, successful, easygoing, tall and good looking

You: smart, ambitious, optimistic, hot, with a lust for life