Hey there, I guess first I should come clean - I'm actually not 39 until tomorrow. But close enough, right?

I've been with my husband for nearly 20 years, and if I'm being honest, the relationship should have ended a long time ago. This isn't a "dead bedroom" or a "he's such a great husband/father so I'll stay". This is a "I'm organizing finances for my way out and I need fulfillment while I do this"

I'm an outdoors, adventuring type of girl. I love being outside in all it's facets. I'm a spiritual person - and no, pagan does not equate to witchcraft. I love to read, write, play guitar (even though I'm awful at it). I work out pretty regularly - but I'm not one of those perfectly sculpted women and probably never will be. I never miss a CFL game or a 49ers game. I'm a jeans/leggings, hoodies and sneakers kinda girl, so if you're looking for Ms. Skirts & Heels, it ain't me. I drink whiskey and beer over wine, music is a core part of my life and I spend way too much time on tiktok.

I'm fun, I love to joke around and torment. I can take it as good as I give it, but it might be matched with a little bit of sass because hey, I'm a ginger and we're a feisty breed. I live for adventure and experiences.

I have a lot of time to give this. I work alone being self employed, I'm a college student so I'm always stowed away in my office and I'm just generally alone. I'm sick of being disconnected and I want the type of bond that makes me excited when I get a notification.

I'm looking for someone who's in a similar situation to mine, shares some of my interests, can banter and flirt, has time to give this and will make me want to stay up far too late in the night. Call it a fwb, a partner in crime. I'd prefer someone in PST/MST/CST but if the vibe is there, we can sort it out. If you're still in love with your wife, I'm not the right person for you.

Me: 5'5, dark red hair (colored, my natural color is more strawberry blonde), blue eyes, mid-sized/average body type that's constantly under construction, and I've been told my ass & tits are pretty great haha

My physical type tends more towards men who keep a kempt appearance. I'm not attracted to overweight guys, I'm so sorry. You don't need to be ripped, but you know...I'm 39, I need a few book boyfriend fantasies taken care of 😘

Also, reddit chat sucks so I'll be looking to bounce pretty quick if we vibe well. I'm allergic to drama so I'm mostly looking to keep this to online for at least awhile.

So if you read all of this - break the ice by telling me what kind of first date you'd plan on a girl's birthday.