Let’s face it, being here and looking for a connection is nothing to be ashamed of. I know I have to validate myself of that, and if it brings you any comfort, I’m happy to tell you as much too. I know many here are in a dark place, but hopefully you find a little bit of guilt free light here, just like what I’m looking for.

I know most of you clicked on this because you have some intellectual/analyze me kink (I’ll send you a bill), so I’ll just get some of the basics out of the way. I have a PhD in clinical psychology. I run a private practice where I do therapy for mood disorders as well as a more niche specialty in OCD. I’m also an associate professor at the local university where I teach and run a research lab. I don’t drop all that to brag, but to give you an idea about the world I live in and the type of women I would get along with, though I find that all these years doing therapy have made me about as open minded when it comes to getting along with other people as anyone can be.

When I go home, I’m a true guys-guy. I love sports, everything but hockey and watch a ton. College football girls to the front. I’m handy, don’t ask for directions, and have an affinity for trashy Chinese take out. I also have a softer side, I love theater and read a ton. I write and have published poetry in the past. I’m well dressed and groomed, average height, and in shape. I’ve been running a lot more lately, and feel as great and confident as I have in years.

Between the ears, I’m an intellectual at heart, as pretentious as it sounds. Whether it’s art house movies, the paintings on my walls, or just celebrity gossip I love to over analyze and think about things far too deeply. I’m an authentic person to a fault, some close friends have told me they were intimidated by me at first. I’ve never understood that but you’ve been warned.

Outwardly, brown hair and eyes. Facial hair that grows like a weed, but clean shaven. A mustache or beard may make an appearance from time to time. Former power lifter and multi sport athlete entering his adult post prime, but with a muscular base. Good teeth, good smile, and flirty in all things.

So here I am. My relationship leaves me feeling like I’m leaving something on the table. I have a great life partner, but I have a hole that’s missing. Maybe you do too, and I’d love to meet the right person to fill the gaps in my life. I’m unconcerned with your age, ethnicity, or any other identifiers. I want to simply meet someone and start building that connection.

A few statements for completeness: -Not interested in changing situation, you shouldn’t be either -Complete discretion, not doxing, blah blah blah -Would hope this would become a sexual outlet as well, but I won’t force or push anything. Kink friendly -Between work and responsibilities at home, I understand a busy schedule

I can’t wait to meet you! Whether you’re a fellow professional, stay at home mom, or simply a woman seeking a real connection is love to hear from you. Please just put a fruit in your first message to show that you read this. Wishing everyone here all the best as you look for whatever you’re searching for!