Hi there, thank you for taking the time to read this. I've had some experience with OAs in the past - I have good communication, strong boundaries, am very discreet and promise I'll be kind and sweet.

I'm quite specific in what I'm looking for here. I'm looking for someone to potentially fall for. I'm not looking to sext initially as it's left me feeling cold and dead in the past. These are some of the reasons OAs haven't worked out for me:

• Time Difference
• She resented the fact that I was a cake eater, in a happy relationship
• She felt guilty and wanted to repair her relationship with her partner

I'm a guy in my mid-30s, happily married with a child and puppy. I'm over 6' tall and I consider myself good looking, at the very least for my age. I have a good head of hair, a flirty smile and I take care of my body with long distance running, intermittent fasting and gym sessions. My aim is to build abs you want to lick chocolate sauce off. Hopefully you also have a good sense of humour.

I have a busy career, and am a very hands on parent, however I can make myself available to chat 7 days a week, and am hoping to feel comfortable enough to send photos, voice notes and have video calls on days that I work from home. We will look to move away from Reddit to Telegram.

I am not shallow and am open to being contacted by anyone above the age of 25. I have a preference for black or mixed race women, but this is not a deal breaker.

If I'm not the one you're looking for then good luck in your search, and if you made it this far - message me! You never know!