Hello there fellow Redditors. I hope your day is going well and you’re enjoying the entertainment of all these posts. Hopefully you’ll quickly recognize that the tone of this one feels a little different and is worthy of your attention. I'm writing with the utmost authenticity. I don’t love the fact that I'm posting here probably just as much as you don't love being here. But where else can we go? Just the fact that we’re both here tells me we’re in a relatable situation. So let’s jump in shall we?

I am absolutely the last person anyone would ever suspect to be posting here.  And you’re probably the last person anyone would suspect reading these. Realistically, the odds are probably stacked against us.  But we won’t know unless we try, right? Thats why I’m taking this step to put myself out there. I’m particularly interested in the lurkers. The ones who just poke around in here.  I have this belief that you never reply because most of the posts are absolute garbage.  You know your worth. You're a high value woman and refuse to settle for the nonsense here. I like that. You're the one I'm speaking to.

I know my worth as well. I'm highly educated, professional, successful, and have a strong EQ. I've been described by others as fun, funny, humble, tender, empathetic, self-deprecating, and an exceptional listener. For career, I run a sales and marketing team for a technology company. All sorts of AI, ML, automation, and robotics. It is seriously some super cool stuff. I really love what I do, and I have a terrific team. When I'm not traveling all over the country, I'll do my Zoom calls and emails from my home office in the upper Midwest.

I'm a dad of two college-aged girls and have a fantastic relationship with them. We're loving, trusting, fun, and we talk openly about relationships, the world, goals, friendships, struggles, and just life in general. We laugh together and we cry together. I’m so proud of them and I cherish all the joy they bring.

Physically, I'm told I look better than guys half my age. I take care of myself. I workout regularly and participate in summer triathlons....swim, bike, and run.  Although I don’t care much for the running part.  I also lift weights a few days a week so I have decent arms, chest and shoulders.  As for actual stats, I’m 5’8”, weigh 175lb, and have hazel eyes.  I’m told my eyes are kind of reverse-hazel(?)  I don’t even know what that means, but people say they look cool.  I have all my teeth (in my mouth), all my hair (on my head). When it gets a pinch too long it starts to look a little crazy bed-heady. Usually that’s when I get lots of fun compliments. My skin is fair, soft, and smooth.  Naturally no hair on my back. I trim my nails, brush and floss, groom properly, and use quality products. And I share all these things in my post because this is Reddit, and well, you know. Rest assured I have no surprise disfigurements.  Glasses for distance, no tattoos or piercings, and a clean shaven face.  Although I’ll go a few days here and there wearing a little scruff. I’m happy to share pictures early to see if there is attraction.

My story is probably like yours.  No need to go too deep here but happy to if we start chatting.  Briefly, I grew up in a loving home, but my parents thought they always knew what was best for me.  So I didn’t have much of a voice as I kid.  I was “good and perfect” and was always trying to please everyone BUT me.  So as a result, I married too young.  It sure made everyone else happy, but I always felt empty.  I thought this is what you’re supposed to do in your 20s and that it would just get better with time.  You can guess how well that turned out.  So I looked outside to get my wants and needs met.  Emotional, physical, and intellectual. This is not my first rodeo.  In fact, I had a long-term AP.  That could be a whole different post in a narcissist victim self-help community.  Anyhoo, today I would say I’m in a roommate situation at home more than anything else. We don’t fight or argue or anything like that. It’s just that I have awareness that I didn’t have when I was younger. I get it now, and I can't unsee it.

So you’ve made it this far and I’ve held your attention. Great! I do sincerely appreciate you sticking around when there are so many other posts to read. Now for the part about what I’m looking for.  I have to be unapologetic about this. I just know what I'm attracted to. Ideally, you’re in your 30s or 40s.  It’s not a hard rule.  I’ll go /-, but I generally enjoy women that have energy and a desire to explore life and experiences. You’re white, smart, curious, passionate, and you’re old enough to know what you want.  You settled before and you’ll be damned if you’re going to ever settle again. You’re in touch with your feelings and understand how to communicate them. You’ve been down this AP road before and have previously found success because you understand the dynamics, excitement, and possibilities. You’re physically fit and fitness is a regular part of your life. You take care of yourself. I realize this limits me to a very small percentage of people here. Yes I set a high bar. But you should too. I'm not looking for perfect. We're all imperfect in lots of ways (inside and out). My point is you should value what you see in the mirror and celebrate yourself. If you need to lose 20 lbs or more or are just beginning your fitness journey, then I’m terribly sorry, but I’m probably not the right guy for you.

I’m looking for a best friend, confidant, and a lover.  One woman. I’m more than only a 9-5 guy. You can expect to get communications often.  You can expect understanding and patience when life throws you a curveball. You can expect a man who knows how to self-regulate his emotions. I’m dependable and know that trust is earned. I’m well read and well traveled and can talk for hours about almost anything. I want to learn about you and share details about myself too. And if we discover we have sensational chemistry and start to lay down a solid foundation then that should hopefully translate into sensational intimacy.  I’m very open sexually and have a very strong libido.  I don’t have hangups and love to explore all the kinks and desires that we keep bottled up. I’m a pleaser and get my satisfaction when I know my partner is getting everything she desires.

As far as your location, I’m quite open.  I’m in Minnesota / upper midwest / CST, but I have the flexibility to travel anywhere and as often as I want. CA, TX and FL are all frequent destinations. I know there are a lot of women who only want local.  I can respect that.  But I don’t think there are many guys here with both the means and flexibility like I have.  I had a long-term AP that I would go visit 1-2 times a month, every month for several years. I understand how to put in the effort.

You’ve been a longtime lurker waiting to finally find a post that resonates with you. Maybe this is the one. Maybe this is the time. If what I wrote speaks to you then I encourage you to say hi. It’s low risk with the potential for very high reward. Would love to hear from you.