Ok so, I’ve been around here for a while. Have chatted with some really lovely and amazing people, while also gotten totally ghosted and toyed with by others, as most have. I’d love to think I’ve become a bit wiser with experience. One thing that I’ve learned is to not message women whom create “F4M” posts for a number of reasons.

• The majority of amazing people I’ve chatted with have been ones that have replied to my own posts here, not vice versa. I’ve found that these women are not wanting to have 1,000 guys message them…it’s exhausting, most guys say the same shit, and there’s way too much aggressive and creepy sexuality. Sex is great. We all want to find someone we think is hot and see them naked at some point. But, as a guy, a lot of the shit we do is cringeworthy.

• Which brings me to my next point. I have stopped messaging women who create “F4M” posts because, as mentioned, they get bombarded by a sea of dicks. Full disclosure and possible unpopular opinion here, but I feel that some of the people who post actually want that type and amount of attention to boost their own self-esteem or inflate their ego. More power to them. I don’t have the time or inclination to be a number.

• I’ve found that the women who don’t post tend to be more selective and have higher chances to not ghost, at least without a good reason. If they take the time and effort to reach out, it’s because they want to and want to develop something.

Would love to hear from y’all. Feedback, criticism, agreement, stories and experiences. Even awful dad jokes. Still looking for a connection as well, so if interested let’s chat!