I have no idea if this is the "right" way to go about this, but maybe there isn't a right way to post here. I'd like to explain my situation a little so someone reading this can understand me a bit better (and maybe some of it resonates). Here goes.

I've been married for 10 years, together with my wife for 18 overall, and we have a child together. I would describe my family life overall as pretty happy. I'm happy with my relationship with my wife - we get along well, we love each other, and we've built a good life so far. Things are stable and we're in a good place. This may be in contrast to many of you posting here, and I can appreciate that. It also begs the question of why I would be posting here in the first place.

Several years ago my wife unfortunately experienced a major medical event that impacted her (and our) lives significantly. She's had multiple interventions and surgeries since then and there continue to be repercussions and medical management to this day. It was obviously not her fault, but it has severely affected our sex life. While it was never exactly strong prior to all this, it has cratered over the last several years. We have tried a number of things to address it, all with minimal success. I used to get more frustrated about it, but lately I've just been feeling sort of numb to it; I don't think about her in a sexual way much anymore, which is actually quite sad. I don't want that part of me to die away completely, which is why I'm here.

So, I'm in a good relationship but it's lacking the romantic and sexual element that so many of us crave. I'm sure many others here are in a dead bedroom situation too, but I thought the context might be important to know. Might as well lay my cards on the table up front, right? As for some details about me, here's my mini-bio: I'm a working professional, I like to run/cycle/swim (and got into a good yoga video the other day), I pride myself on cooking dinner every night, and I signed up for a writing course starting soon. I'm introverted generally and cherish my time alone to engage in nerdy pursuits (reading novels, gaming) and I love introducing my son to things I've always enjoyed.

I'd love to hear from you if any of this struck a chord with you. Happy chatting!