Ever run into someone, think they’re attractive, have a nice conversation, and that’s all it is? Maybe a few days later you think about that person again, wonder if they felt the same spark. Maybe you noticed it, but you’re both married…it’s hard to broach the subject. You don’t want to overstep and be judged…or maybe it’s a little too public…you like your life and you don’t want to ruin anything…but you’re curious.

I love these kind of meets, but I want to know what the full thing is like. The cute mom at the playground, the crunchy creative with a little extra cash at Whole Foods, the bartender at that brewery. Maybe this is how to get that thrill.

I’ve been here before. I know Opsec. I hope you do, too. If you don’t, ask! We’ll figure it out together.

Me? I’m a 39 year old dad who wants the excitement of a one night stand but the security of getting to know someone and trust that we are in this together. I’m kind of stupid and silly at times and that’s going to play into this for sure. Make me laugh and turn me on, please.

I’m a lefty politically. Is politics everything? No, but unfortunately it serves as a stand in for a lot of things these days so you should know where I stand up front. We’d all like Nancy Pelosi’s stock tips, but also I think women should be able to get healthcare, and so should poor people, and I also think that guns are dumb and boring but also I own one because they unfortunately aren’t going anywhere in this country. But seriously, it’s such a boring hobby. I don’t get it.

I’m hoping for something with a real sexual component. I’m sex positive and adventurous and hoping to find someone similar. If we click I’d love to meet up!

Physically I’m fairly fit but imperfect. I may have dabbled in the more NSFW portions of Reddit and had my picture removed from a Dadbod sub because I guess I wasn’t Dadbod enough. I’ll take it as a badge of honor I guess?I’m a weird combo of very proud of my body and constantly trying to improve it because I’m not living up to my own standards. We can dig into that or leave it to my therapist.

If you’re looking for a full head of hair you won’t find it here but you will find a guy who pulls off the bald/beard and sometimes glasses look very well. I take pride in my appearance and I hope you do, too.

As for hobbies, when I’m not in full dad mode I like to mountain bike, play music, go see shows, generally be outside in any way I can. Some of those overlap with dad mode but I do crave some solo adult time.

I have an intellectually stimulating job that I work from home. I’ve done more meaningful work in the past but this job is a great fit for this point in my life.

You? Funny, smart, endlessly curious, a great conversationalist, takes pride in your appearance, an enthusiastic sexual partner, and….fill in the rest with something else that might interest me?