Do you wander through your days, feeling fairly normal but with a pit in your chest? The ache of something wonderful missing from your life that you know exists but eludes you right now? Do you know that feeling of knowing someone? Truly, deeply knowing them? Like even when you're not with them and you watch a TV show and see someone who reminds you of them, you know exactly what they would think and do?

I feel like half of my true self right now. I am by all means considered a successful adult. I have a high-paying job. I own a home. I'm married. Great friends. I'm fit, healthy and, I think, good looking. And yet. I tasted what it was like for eight glorious months what it was like to be truly seen. My god. to be understood and not judged. To feel free to express my kinks and joys and fears and flash my warts with no fear of judgement.

I'm searching for that in the cesspool of scum and villainy that is OA. But I NEED connection. A spark. Someone to make me smile and fill that fucking gap in my chest.

If you're a woman who lives on the West Coast and maybe even lives in Oregon or the PNW, I would love to hear from you. At this point I'm getting very particular about what I'm looking for, and I hope you are too. I don't want to waste time on bullshit. I want deep conversation. Diving into anything, big and small. The daily check-ins about our days but also the talks about music, sports, the outdoors or poetry. I don't care. I want you to have a passion. I'll be rapt and ask questions if you care enough to ask about mine.

I'm a photographer and writer. I cry when I read anything that hits my soul. I'm empathetic and caring and quick-witted. I fall hard and have a kinky side that I absolutely want to explore with someone who is willing. Sex is missing in my married life and it isn't removed from my search for connection.

Congrats if you've read this far. You get the things I know you're wondering about. I'm 36. Married for six years, together since I was 19. No kids. I'm 5-11, mustached, brown hair with speckles of gray. I'm fit but not stacked with muscle. I run three times a week and lift three days too. I'm more into Type 2 fun. Long full days in the mountains climbing summits of the Cascades. I have one tattoo that I got recently and if you guess what it is, well, bonus points.

As for you, I don't care your age. I seek connection. Twenty-two or 55, if the emotional and physical attraction is there, great. I am not going to list specific physical attributes because I'm attracted to people's minds just as much as their physiques, but someone in the PST who is fit or at least takes care of themselves is very much a draw for me.

I know I'm just one dude posting in a sea of them. But I promise I am genuine. I crave and yearn for someone to match my wit and be willing to explore and dive deep with me. This life is too short to just coast along. Maybe take a chance even if you've just lurked on here and never sent a message before?

I appreciate you reading this. Feels better just to write.