This isn't my first time. And I have spent the last week or so writing this and deleting it and rewriting it when I have had time. So here it goes And as the title says, get ready to read because I love to babble and write lol. Yes I have had an OA/AP in the past. Not from reddit! But I have had 2 long term from another site. One that strung me along on a string for 2 yrs until I finally gave up. And another for 6 yrs that unfortunately ended at no fault of either party. I am, like many others on reddit trying this over and over with no real results. Even when I don't post and just decide to lurk through the current posts and try to find something that will catch my eye. Most I see are "Back for more", "Here we go again", "3rd time's a charm" etc., etc. And I am right there with you on reddit! I think the reason it is so hard to find what we are looking for though, is because to many people don't try to get to know someone exclusively without talking to or messaging several others. I have had so many women on here tell me "if you are not interested, just tell me because I have others that I messaged, and that I am talking to that may be interested". And "I don't want to pass up the possibility of a great opportunity if you aren't interested". I am not against being honest and telling someone if I am not interested. But quite honestly when someone tells me immediately that they are talking to others!? I will lose interest immediately and tell you I am not interested. Because it makes me feel like I am just an option unless I say the right things, someone else comes along that's better or trying to make me jealous making it known that you currently have other options on the table. Granted I am married so obviously someone has to share my time with my spouse as I would have to with them in this situation. But that doesn't mean we can't find someone exclusively for this type of situation. Or at least give someone the chance to be that person without still checking other options. I'm not a scratch off ticket for someone to scratch and see if I am a winner. Not even really taking the time to get to know me without all the other possible options out there? And then moving on to the next ticket in your pocket? No! Then you have the one's that finally settle on their winning ticket and don't say another word to you. And then they pull the dreaded ghosting trick that also seems to be so very common practice here. Yes I am posting and will probably get a few responses. But I will only pick one that actually puts some effort into their response that isn't just hi, hey or hello and actually catches my attention. I won't message several at the same time because I believe in being fair to someone and giving them a real chance. Same as when I look through other posts. I will message only one person and give it a day or so for them to respond before I message anyone else. I am not the type that is desperate enough to message several women at the same time just because they make a post. If I get no response I delete the message and carry on assuming they have already found someone. And I don't message again because I won't beg anyone either. So there is my rant for the day lol. It all just seems so high school to me that people can't be real and give someone an exclusive chance to really get to know them or they just ghost out of the blue for no reason.

Anyway moving on lol. I am actually a very laid back, easy going guy who loves to joke around (love's a good dad joke) but also really get's into intelligent deep conversations. I am not going to say I am your knight and shining armor gorgeous prince who is going to come riding in on my white horse to sweep you off your feet. I am just an average aged 51 yr old man, but told I have aged well and that I am attractive for my age (Maybe people just being nice? Who knows lol). I am definitely no Fabio or Dwayne The Rock Johnson by any means, so don't expect that. I have worked hard in my life so I have some pretty good arms. But other parts of me have grown since the age of 40 when donuts, cake and food in general began to really love me. And now they have loved me for 11 yrs. So I have that dad bod (the little gut and no butt) lol. I am about 6' tall and 180 pounds so a pretty good weight really. But if you are looking for that buffed out gym guy I am definitely not him. I am bald headed (mostly by choice due to that dreaded receding hair line on top) so I keep it shaved so not to have that comb over thing going on. However I wear a ball cap 90% of the time. Normally I have a silvering goatee and mustache that reflects off my blue eyes that are probably my most attractive features, as I am always complimented on my eyes and told gray is sexy. However a recent mishap in trimming my goatee and mustache forced me to go clean shaven and starting over haha. So right now I have silvering peach fuzz for a goatee and mustache and it will be a few weeks before it's back out to be much noticeable. So if you want to get to know me in my stages, now is the time haha. Oh and I do wear glasses about half the time, mostly for reading.

What I am looking for?: Well pretty much what everyone else is looking for in this forum. All the parts of my life I don't currently have in my marriage or that have faded over time. That giddiness and excitement to talk to someone who actually cares and doesn't make you feel like you are talking to a wall all the time. Someone who listens and cares when you just need a shoulder or a person to talk to. All those things that let you know someone is thinking of you like sending songs back and forth, little voice messages back and forth, little poems, meme's, love letter's or little sayings that make you have all those feels for someone. Kind of like we all were with our first loves in high school. Of course when I was in high school we didn't have cell phones or computers lol. But like those times you would get a love letter and couldn't wait to sneak off to the bathroom to read it. Or they would make you a cassette tape of love songs recorded off the radio you couldn't wait to get home to listen to. Feelings like that but without it being high school lol. Someone who's bedroom life has gone down hill, is non existent anymore or that just isn't everything you need. And needs those flirty and sexy times once in awhile. However I don't want a situation that's all about sex all the time. If you are just looking for someone to help get you off, I am not the guy! And there are plenty other forums for that. Granted I am as horny as the next person. But I want all those feels more than anything and to be able to really get to know someone well before we get into all those naughty times. I want someone who is willing and able to share pics, voice chat, video chat as well as text chat. I don't want just the 9 to 5 Monday thru Friday chats. Although for video chatting and voice chatting I am only available to do so during the daytime hours on weekdays without eyes and ears around. But I can text chat anytime within reason and with some discretion of course. So someone who is in a similar situation would be perfect. I definitely don't want someone who can't respond for days at a time. I understand we all have our own lives outside this situation and that sometimes we can't respond for an hour or 2 or 3. But I don't want the going days and days without contact. Also I would like someone who can actually type and carry on a conversation and not just send little short messages all the time. I do love a lady who carries herself as such. lady in the streets animal in the sheets is my style (or however the saying goes lol). In other words if the F bomb comes out of your mouth every other word. I am probably going to tell you to go to church and wash that potty mouth (Kidding!!). But really it's not attractive. I am not saying I am prude and don't like swearing at all (I do sometimes). It's just not attractive when it's your second language. Oh and speaking of attraction? I don't really have a specific type, I am pretty open. I am more into a person's personality than anything else really. And I prefer to move off reddit pretty quickly to telegram.

So if you have gotten this far props to you! I try to be punctually correct. However I am first to admit that I am typo king. And I am sure I have some comma's that are misplaced or a question mark that should be an exclammation point or vise versa. But I am sure you got the point I was trying to make lol. I am really easy to get a long with and to talk to. Picky? Maybe a little bit? Ok maybe a lot!! But I know what I want and not willing to just settle as nobody else should just settle either. Oh and lastly! Age? Please be at least over the age of 37. And I am not looking for Guys or couples either.

Hope to hear from you!!