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42[M4F] #NewJersey: I feel like I've written too much, but I'm going to hit post anyway.
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tthrowaway840 is a male age 42 looking for a female in New Jersey
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This is way too long of a post, so thanks in advance for even attempting it. I don't want to waste your time, so let me help you determine if I'm a good fit for you.

I am 6'1" with a slim athletic build, light skin, blue eyes, a shaved head, and a reddish brown beard. I work out most days before the kids wake up, but only for about 20-30 minutes. That said, I'm not muscular, but I don't have a dad bod. I consider my smile one of my best attributes, and make sure to use it generously. At the risk of sounding a bit narcissistic, I have a charming personality that is sure to brighten your day.

When I'm interested in someone, I want to learn as much about them as possible. Expect long messages and probing questions. I won't be offended if there are things you don't want to share at the start, but in time, I would like to build a relationship that is free from any judgement, where we are capable of sharing all of those secrets. I enjoy woodworking, gardening, and playing piano, among other things, and I love sharing photos, videos, and voice messages on Telegram.

The emotional aspect of this is huge for me. It feels great to be trusted, and to trust someone. Initial physical attraction is important, but it doesn't come close to someone the attraction that comes with mutual respect and admiration for one another. My ideal partner is someone I can spend 99% of the time just talking to, with the other 1% crossing those boundaries that make our relationship more than just a friendship. Tell me about your day, send me photos, let me tell you you're pretty, and eventually the tension will be so fierce that we can't help but cave to it.

What's not to like, right? Well, my availability, for one. I get up at 5 am, which means I go to bed early. My chat availability typically ends around 9 pm EST. I do have availability during the day, though some days are better than others. There will be occasions where I stay up late, but those are much more of an exception than a rule. Secondly, my marriage isn't bad. While I wouldn't say I'm happy, I'm not unhappy, either. I'm not in a dead bedroom. Really, I just want to create something that exists just for me, outside of kids, family, work, responsibilities, etc. It's selfish, but I feel like I deserve it.

As for what I'm seeking in a partner, I'm looking for one person that I can really commit to. I'm not interested in short-term flings. That said, I will tell you some things that might save both of us some time.

  • I'm looking for someone who is married and has children. It's hard for me to relate to people who don't share those life components, not to mention that I consider it important for us to have similar amounts of risk.
  • I'm looking for a significant amount of communication. We can find what works for us, whether we text chat in real time, send long typed messages less frequently, go back and forth with voice chats, etc.
  • I am ready to be open, honest, and authentic with you. I appreciate OPSEC and keeping certain things hidden, but as we build trust and get more comfortable, I'd like each of us to take those walls down.
  • I'm not looking for someone plus-size, thicc, curvy, etc. I'm sorry, it feels really sleazy writing that. We all have a type.
  • If you're MAGA, I won't be able to trust your judgement

All of that said, I understand that finding the right person requires some degree of compromise. If you feel like we'd be a good match, send me a message even if you don't meet every item on my wish list.

You probably have enough information at this point. If I didn't rule myself out, and you didn't rule yourself out...we just might be soulmates. Say hello!

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a female
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