I've been with my partner for nearly seven years and while the bedroom isn't dead, I find myself thinking of a time where things were more spontaneous and there was more effort toward cultivating eroticism and the mutual pursuit that followed.

Rather than sell you on all the reasons we might be a fit, im going to get what may be my Disqualifiers for some out of the way for your convenience...

I can be snarky and I've gotten feedback I can come off as "guarded" (think this how it reads when I'm bored). I have a need for mental arousal through the art of cultivating desire - before I can get more intimate. I'm not insecure so attempts to neg will be addressed and this also means I don't have patience for insecure men who think it's their job to humble women.

I don't make a habit of connecting with people who make their sexual preferences their whole identity (everyone on reddit it a Dom 😆).

I don't find dad bods endearing and I think there are some kinks that warrent shame (illegal ones and ones involving family members). I don't like video games.

Here are my non negotiables...

Don't take things so seriously. Be positive. Take care of your body (420 and some happy hour fun OK). Respect the fact not every connection is meant to last and that's OK. Have availability to chat somewhat regularly as it's helpful when trying to form a connection.

If you hate me yet here are some stats you might appreciate...

I'm a petite woman of color with tattoos. I like to dance and perform. I have no children (prefer if you didn't as this has made availability difficult). I'm a lover of dichotomy and appreciate intimate details that help me understand the way someone thinks. I enjoy fashion, comedy and my femininity is something I enjoy exploring with a masculine counterpart.

Looking to cultivate intimacy. Your introduction is your first impression - this can dictate how all subsequent exchanges between us unfold. Make it count 💕