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Hello there fellow Redditors. I hope your day is going well and youâre enjoying the entertainment of all these posts. Hopefully youâll quickly recognize that the tone of this one feels a little different and is worthy of your attention. Im writing with authenticity. I donât love posting here, but where else can we go? Just the fact that weâre both here tells me weâre in a relatable situation. So letâs jump in shall we?
I am absolutely the last person anyone would ever suspect to be posting here. And youâre probably the last person anyone would suspect reading these. Realistically, the odds are probably stacked against us.  But we wonât know unless we try, right? Thats why Iâm taking this step to put myself out there. Iâm particularly interested in the lurkers.  I have this theory that you never reply because most of the posts are absolute garbage.  You know your worth and refuse to settle for the nonsense here. I like that. Â
I know my worth as well. I'm highly educated, professional, successful, and have a strong EQ. I run a sales and marketing team for a technology
company. All sorts of AI, ML, and automation. Super cool stuff. I really love what I do, and I have a terrific team. When I'm not traveling all over the country, I'll do my Zoom calls and emails from my home office in the upper Midwest.
I'm a dad of two college-aged girls and have a fantastic relationship with them.
We're fun, loving, trusting, and we talk openly about relationships, the world,
goals, struggles, and just life in general. Iâm so proud of them and cherish all the joy they bring.
Physically, I look better than guys half my age. I take care of myself. I workout regularly and participate in summer triathlons....swim, bike, and run.  Although I donât care much for the running part.  I also lift weights a few days a week so I have arms, chest and shoulders.  As for stats, Iâm 5â8â, weigh 175lb, and have hazel eyes.  Iâm told my eyes are kind of reverse-hazel(?)  I donât even know what that means, but people say they look cool.  I have all my teeth (in my mouth), all my hair (on my head). When it gets a pinch too long it starts to look a little bed-heady. Usually thatâs when I get lots of fun compliments. My skin is fair, soft, and smooth.  Naturally no hair on my back. I trim my nails, brush and floss, groom properly, and use good products. And I share all these things in my post because this is Reddit, and well, you know. Rest assured I have no surprise disfigurements.  Glasses for distance, no tattoos or piercings, and a clean shaven face.  Although Iâll go a few days here and there wearing a little scruff. Iâm happy to share pictures early.
My story is probably like yours.  I wonât go too, too deep. But happy to if we start chatting.  I grew up in a loving home, but my parents thought they always knew what was best for me.  So I didnât have much of a voice as I kid.  I was âgood and perfectâ and was always trying to please everyone BUT me.  So as a result, I married too young.  It sure made everyone happy, but I always felt empty.  I figured this is what youâre supposed to do in your 20s and that it would just get better with time.  You can guess how well that turned out.  So I looked outside to get my wants and needs met.  Emotional, physical, and intellectual. This is not my first rodeo.  In fact, I had a long-term AP.  That could be a whole different post in a narcissist victim self-help community.  Anyhoo, today I would say Iâm in a roommate situation more than anything else. We donât fight or anything like that. Itâs just that I have awareness that I didnât have when I was younger. I get it now.
So youâve made it this far and Iâve held your attention. Great! I do sincerely appreciate you sticking around when there are so many posts to read. Now for the part about what Iâm looking for.  Ideally, youâre in your 30s or 40s.  Itâs not a hard rule.  Iâll go /-, but I generally enjoy women that still have energy and a desire to explore life and experiences. Youâre white, smart, curious, passionate, and youâre old enough to know what you want.  You settled before and youâll be damned if youâre going to ever settle again. Youâre in touch with your feelings and understand how to communicate. Youâve been down this AP road before and have previously found success because you understand the dynamics, excitement, and possibilities. Youâre physically fit and take care of yourself. Perfect?  Absolutely not.  But you should value what you see in the mirror and celebrating yourself. If you need to lose 20 lbs or more or are just beginning your fitness journey, then Iâm terribly sorry, but Iâm probably not the right guy for you.Â
Iâm looking for a best friend, confidant, and a lover.  Not many. Only one. Iâm more than a 9-5 guy. You can expect to get communications often.  You can expect understanding and patience when life throws you a curveball. You can expect a man who knows how to self regulate emotions. Iâm dependable and know that trust is earned. Iâm well read and well traveled and can talk for hours about almost anything. I want to learn about you and share details about myself too. And if we discover we have sensational chemistry and start to lay down a solid foundation then that should hopefully translate into sensational intimacy.  Iâm sexually very open and have a very strong libido as well.  I donât have hangups and love to explore all the kinks and desires that we keep bottled up. Iâm a pleaser and get my satisfaction when I know my partner is getting everything she desires.
As far as your location, Iâm open.  Iâm in Minnesota / upper midwest / CST, but I have the flexibility to travel anywhere and as often as I want. CA and TX are frequent destinations. I know there are a lot of women who only want local.  I can respect that.  But I donât think there are many guys with both the means and flexibility like I have.Â
Youâve been a longtime lurker waiting to finally find a post that resonates with you. Maybe this is the one. Maybe this is the time. Itâs low risk to say hello with the potential for very high reward. Would love to hear from you.
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