I'm somewhat reluctant to leave the relative safety of the affairs subs to post in sapiosexuals. As a married man I'm always concerned my adultery could be triggering to someone hurt by infidelity. Especially in a sub that's so niche it's barely more than a thousand redditors strong. That being said I feel my need for intellectual discourse with my partner is the greatest gatekeeper to me "catching feels".

I often state in my ads I'm looking for someone who is "Smart and funny" knowing full well this expression is overused to the point of being hackneyed (honestly the word sapiosexual isn't far behind). More explicitly I want to rub brains with someone who broadens my world view. I need a lover who is deeply introspective and in constant passionate pursuit of knowledge, self-improvement and emotional intelligence.

So, it's Sunday night, and I've been told (though I'm not sure I've the data to verify) Sunday night 20:00 hours is the sweet spot for "r4r" subs. To that end here's my Sunday night bid for intimacy.

My marriage is in name only at this point (i.e. less than roommates). I'm a burly bicurious-ish nerd. I am big, but my shoulders are wider than my hips. I've a case of RBF, a very full beard, shaved head and a giant pair of black frames only a software developer could love. It's an aesthetic one might call highlander-librarian, professorial-Viking, bookstore-bouncer. But despite the curmudgeonly exterior I'm an idealist at heart but a rationalist in practice. I'm a logophile, left of Bernie, jaded cynic, and hopeless romantic.

I read, I write, I draw, I rave about geeky things. I'm left of Bernie, an atheist, and a progressive. I love words, weed, and wicked tattoos (that's not to suggest you must have one, just that it'd be great if we could appreciate them together).

You: are smart, funny, and an art-lover.