Hello. The above is part of a quote by Salvador Dali (my favorite artist) I saw at an exhibition last week. It made me chuckle (he's a trip). I'm looking for my "drug" here, and to be that for someone else. By that I mean something that is socially unacceptable, definitely a bit risky, but makes us feel so so good. Our drug has both short- and long-term effects (physically and emotionally), can cause heart palpitations and feeling of euphoria, and is something we’d crave every day. Hopefully, though, our drug won’t make my face break out (kudos if you get the reference).

About me: I'm a 56 year-old, white married man. Professional, clean-cut, and creative with a great sense of humor. Very fit and look at least 10 years younger. I'm very discreet and respectful of limits. I am also fun, sexy, intelligent, extremely kinky and very open sexually with few limits. I know the difference between fantasy and reality. I have many interests and hobbies, including photography, travel, sports (love football season!), and history. I'm a generally happy person who smiles easily and tries to give people the benefit of the doubt. Very easy going until pushed too far. I’m safe, sane, dominant in the bedroom and respectful of limits. Semi-retired so have time to invest in an OA partner. Absolute discretion given and expected. I have SFW and NSFW pics and other things in my profile history. Definitely not a throwaway; I’ve had this profile on Reddit for seven years. 

Relationship status: I'm married and so are you. Unlike some who post in this subreddit, I'm not in an unhappy marriage, and ideally you aren't, either. That doesn't mean we aren't missing something in our current relationships. I mean, why else would we be here? If you're truly unhappy and in a shitty marriage I don't think we'd ultimately be looking for the same things. 

What I'm seeking: Ideally something long term and exclusive and in EST or CST. I don’t have a specific age range in mind; it’s more about connection. I value intelligence, kindness, honesty, attractiveness, sexiness and a kinky, open mind. However, I'm seeking someone emotionally mature, established enough in her life to know what she wants, and with the time to put as much into an OA relationship as I do, with the understanding that we both have lives. A connection that we look forward to every day and that brings smiles to our faces in the morning when we wake up and after we turn out the lights at night. Seeking someone in the same situation as me who is looking to explore. Looking for text, videos and voice chats. Open to in-person encounters, but not required. I’m not in a dead bedroom, just a boring one, and I keep a large part of myself, and my fantasies and desires, hidden from my spouse. Perhaps you do, too?

What I'm NOT seeking: A sugar baby. Drama. Immaturity. Spouse bashing. A woman looking for someone else to "make her happy". 

Would love chatting and seeing where things go. To see if you’ve read this far, tell me who your favorite artist or sports team is. 

And truthfully, I have taken drugs. Well, once when I tried some edibles. Didn’t really do anything for me and it was the worst chocolate I’ve ever had. Hopefully you taste a lot better.