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I’ve been thinking tonight and really wrestling with the fact lately that the person I am now and the person I was before marriage are not the same person. And that transformation has been largely out of my control. It’s no one’s fault, it’s just a natural byproduct of settling down and starting a family. But the feeling of missing the person I used to be still lingers. Loss of control of my own self. I know starting a family was what I wanted, but the person I’m married to has changed into someone that I wouldn’t have married 10 years ago. I can’t control that, but it’s the reality I currently face. How does one get back to being who they want to be? To be where they want to be while still maintaining a healthy family dynamic? Surely a question for a therapist. But this sub is a good substitution sometimes.
This isn’t a search for an AP. Just looking for a chat. Tell me who you were and who you are now and what you miss. Tell me what you’d do if you suddenly found yourself free of the family routine and with unlimited time on your hands. Maybe it’s the same as me. Looking forward to hearing some of your stories.
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