So here I am. Again. I don't expect gifts but today is the first time I woke up with a bouquet on my birthday. I think it's a sign of the state of the union.

What I'm looking for: I'm married and not getting what need at home, but am not interested in leaving my marriage. I am looking for someone I can build an online relationship with, where we have some fun, share the good and the bad times, have some fun, enhance for each other what we already have. I want to look at my phone and be excited to see that I have a message. I want someone who I can talk to about anything (yes, this includes sex and no I'm not going to call you daddy or let me tie you up. Just old fashioned love making anyone?). Speaking of, I kinda have to like you to be intimate with you, which means you're mature, discreet, clean, and fit.

What I'm not looking for: I'm not looking to change my situation. l'm looking to add something to it, something that only I know about. Something that puts a smile on my face, whilel'm handling my normal life. I don't expect your time 24/7, so please don't expect mine 24/7. I am looking for a mature man who understands that I AM MARRIED. Why do I have to say that here?

About me: I'm a west coaster, have a career I love and am very busy with. I'm a GenX parent, deep thinking idealist, lousy sleeper, and mostly happy in a sexless marriage. I enjoy reading, animals, drinks with gin or umbrellaa, flowers, traveling, hiking. watching films and spending time with my sons.

I'm 5'4, long brown hair and hazel eyes. Mom bod but nowhere near the "curvy" (aka BBW) I see mentioned here a lot. Want to be my gym buddy?

About you: 35 , compatible with the above, married or in a long term relationship, able to hold a conversation, and witty to pivot between naughty conversations and the mundane. Hopefully, also intelligent and slightly sarcastic. And you're a nice guy. Because, as the saying goes, nice guys finish second iykyk. And you're emotionally available with time to dedicate to this. I will want your time and attention. All the attention you can spare. You also love talking and telling me about your day (without me pulling your teeth).

So, if you like what you've read, and would like to see if we click, please reach out and send a message with substance some prompts: reality shows or documentaries? Painful truth or comforting lie? Ranch or blue cheese on wings?