It's hard to describe why I'm here, why I'm posting this.

Is my bedroom "dead"? Not entirely. But it's also not is "alive" as I would like it to be. Is my marriage in trouble? No, and I don't want to endanger it.

Yet I'm here, posting this.

Something about life over the last handful of years has led me to kind of secretly feeling lonely. I've worked virtually for a long time (even pre-COVID), so it's not entirely that -- but it is part of it. I'm not out in the world enough. And then there's kids -- I have young kids, which limits a social life, limits freedom. And while the marriage, again, is good, even a good marriage kind of traps you a little bit, doesn't it?

I'll disclose that I've always had difficulty with monogamy. I've not had a full-blown affair since being married, but I have had...some minor versions of it, and a fling or two.

Otherwise, I'm a good husband, a good father. I'm successful in my career, financially very secure. I'm well educated, well read, well traveled. I'm attentive, compassionate, empathetic, smart, funny, very giving. I'm a good conversationalist. I'm a good lover. I'm tall, reasonably attractive (according to most people, anyway), and fit.

I guess I just want to put my good qualities to use more. Obviously, I'm not perfect -- that's part of why I'm here, of course.

I'm looking for someone similarly situated. Smart, sexy, but...lonely in certain ways.

I don't have expectations or parameters for what this might turn into. Full-blown IRL love affair? I'm open to it. More of a virtual-only flirty friendship? I'm open to that. Very sex-centric? Yep, it could go there. Hardly any sexual component? Sure, it could work with the right person.

I just want to feel like I'm living life more fully, experiencing more connection, more pleasure. I feel I have a lot to offer and I have a lot of interests, lots of secret desires. Maybe you do too. Let's talk.