What am I supposed to start with here? Looking for an emotional affair (aren't we all), not looking to change my situation or yours, etc.

I'm married and have kids. I like to read, listen to music, try to keep active. I have various other hobbies depending on my mood. I can hold a conversation, I'm a good listener, and I try my best to be respectful. I'm discreet and your privacy is as important as mine. Sometimes I can be a little blunt, I don't like to beat around the bush, and my sense of humor can be a little sarcastic at times.

I can be extremely patient, if you're the right person. But, I'm also not afraid to jump in head first if that is where things go. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I can take things at whatever speed you're comfortable with.

I want someone who is happy in their life, and wants to share in that with me. That doesn't mean you can never complain, I want to be there for you in times of need as well. But I'm not here to be your knight in shining armor, to rescue you from your loveless marriage or dead bedroom.

I want someone who wants to talk lots throughout their day. I understand that you won't be able to every day, or every evening, but if you're only ever available from the hours of 8-5, or 7-11 then you're not the girl for me. If I like you, I want to hear from you lots, and I'd hope you feel the same about me.

I want you to have at least a few interests you like to talk about, but they don't need to be the same as mine. I want a woman who is intelligent and able to hold a conversation. Someone who is as interested in my life as I am in theirs, and who isn't afraid to ask about what they want to know.

I want there to be mutual attraction. At the risk of putting anyone off, I'll be honest and say that I appreciate a woman who takes care of her appearance at least somewhat, and a cute face goes a long long way. I know that what people consider to be attractive might vary, but if you are, I think you know. For my part, I've been told I'm handsome. Call me shallow if you want, but let's not kid ourselves that attraction plays no role in this.

It is so hard to accurately and succinctly portray what it is I'm looking for in one of these posts. Never mind trying to sell myself to you. But look, I'm a catch okay. I've been at this long enough to know what I want, and if that's you, I'm going to be all in.