Hi there nighttime (or other time zone) humans of OA! Was Valentine's Day also kinda... whatever for you? Let's talk! These are the things I want in a new friend here. They also describe what I'm able to be for you.

Availability and responsiveness: This might be the most important part for me! Like many people here, it's easiest for me to respond on during the day on weekdays. I also tend to stay up a little late (EST). However, I want to still find time for each other during other times, within reason. I am looking for long term. There's times when we can't talk, and that's fine! But don't leave me hanging in the middle of a conversation, or disappear for a few days without saying anything. Because I genuinely like a good...

Conversation: we should be partners here. Both of us can maintain a good conversation without relying on one person to do all the work. We're honest with each other, but we can also respectfully decline to share details if we're not comfortable. Conversation is super important because it's a big part of the...

Attraction: I feel like I see the words sapiosexual and demisexual a lot, but I'm not sure I fully grasp it, so I'm not going to try to define myself by those terms. But it's something like that. I become attracted to you because of our conversation and because you make me feel special and wanted. If you read all of this rambling and take the time to respond, I'm already into you! (Yes, you! You're not too fat or too skinny or anything else. You're perfect.) If you don't feel the same way, then I hope you're into an average-looking dude who is proud of his dad bod and weird hair, because that's what you're getting. I don't have a beautiful jaw or a great body or a fascinating life or life-changing genitals to offer. All I have is authenticity. And honestly, if we don't click in that way, I'd still want to be friends. But attraction of course is important for...

Sexy stuff: I'm for it - if you are! Let's talk about fantasies. And experiences. And let's share our bodies with each other. I will want to see you and I hope you want to see me. Every time I see you, you'll turn me on like I've never seen you before. While I definitely don't mind if we end up sending each other pictures early in our conversation, I'm gonna be suspicious of anyone offering nudes in the first message. In all our sexy stuff, there needs to be respect, trust, and consent. I want to appreciate you and tell you how much you turn me on.

Is that asking a lot? Probably! But I'm hoping someone reads this and it really resonates. I have a slight preference for around my age (maybe 33-43) but that's not an absolute. So please say hi. I know you're out there, and I hope I hear from you soon!

tl;dr - if it's Too Long, Don't Respond. (Yeah, I'm clever.) I put some effort in this post, because I really want to get this right!