Last night, I asked the kind and helpful people of reddit about how i might communicate my desire to be bound by the bar.

I took the advice of one redditor and got an image up on my phone. i then proceeded to hand my phone over explaining how i want to do this, how i want him to cuddle me whilst being detained by the bar and so on. he was a little confused as he didn’t see me as kinky, and thought i liked vanilla sex only.

I admit i do really enjoy cuddlefucking. The appeal of looking in his eyes cuddling and kissing, whilst he tells me about how i’m such a good girl, how good girls don’t orgasm and him whispering other obscenities. I understood why he thought i only liked vanilla.

it took him a moment but he understood how i might find pleasure in using a bar.

afterwards we had a really good conversation about things we might want to explore. my partner has had a very colourful sexual history, so has explored much more than me.

I have a list of kinks i have wanted to approach him about, he said he would need time as he currently wasn’t mentally prepared to explore and discuss the potential of all my sexual desires in that moment, but we have made plans to do a kink questionnaire and see which kinks would be a good fit for us.

thank you kind people of reddit. I think i just got so overworked about it, because i was afraid he wouldn’t love me anymore.