Physical Traits

I’m 38, white, 6ft tall, ‘dad bod’ but well built. Bearded with a shaved head and big ol’ 7½” cock.

Vanilla Me

In a non monogamous relationship

I’m a huge nerd, passionate about graphic novels, science fiction, fantasy, video games, and all aspects of pop culture.

I suppose I’ve got my life together. I work a high-paying blue-collar job, own a home, and can consider myself somewhat successful.

I have a wickedly dark, deadpan, and sarcastic sense of humor.

Depression has been a constant companion for what feels like an eternity. The only downside now is a general apathy towards life. I don’t experience stress or anxiety, but I also don’t feel happy or excited, which might go some way to explain my kinks.

I also have interests in true crime, aliens, ghosts, and other topics that don’t exist.

Kinks

I’ve been exploring BDSM since I was 19 years old, and 2025 marks 20 fucking years.

Initially, I started as a Daddy Dominant and Caregiver, but my kinks have since evolved into a more sadistic mindset.

However, I still retain some of my DD experiences. Outside of kink, I revert to my natural caregiving instincts, nurturing, protecting, and ensuring the safety and well-being of my submissive partner. I can occasionally become possessive.

My kinks revolve mostly around extreme humiliation and degradation, public exhibitionism and voyeurism, TPE, CNC, binding and rope play amongst others. I expect many of them fall into limits but I’m happy to explore how far you’re willing to go.

I I prefer to view dynamics as a two-way street. I want you to be able to indulge in your favorite kinks as well as enjoy mine. It’s much more enjoyable for both of us if my sub enjoys themselves rather than going through the motions participating in kinks they don’t enjoy.

Speaking of boundaries, I respect yours. Consent is non-negotiable; NO MEANS NO. I adhere to a philosophy of RACK or risk-aware consensual kink.

Aftercare is crucial to me. While I enjoy breaking down a submissive, it’s equally important to rebuild them through tending to bruises or wounds, providing snacks and drinks, and ultimately helping them regain their composure.

My last dynamic ended approximately three years ago. We met on Reddit just before the COVID-19 pandemic, and our dynamic lasted for two years during the pandemic. Therefore, I’m committed to a long-term relationship.

What I’m Looking For

For me, it’s essential to find someone with whom I can connect emotionally and share similar vanilla interests. While it’s fun to imagine a 24/7 dynamic, work, studies, social commitments, and life in general can be overwhelming. I need to find a partner in crime who can talk to me about anything and everything, a best friend, a submissive, and someone who enjoys sharing silly memes with me.

Ideally, you’ll be clingy and someone who craves attention. Sometimes, I feel lonely, and it’s always nice to feel wanted.

Kink-wise, I’m interested in finding a masochist and someone who enjoys the humiliation and degradation aspects of kink. Perhaps someone who wants to push their limits and boundaries or is open to exploring new ideas and kinks.

Final Thoughts

Writing this out has been quite an effort, and while I don’t expect this level of detail in a response, I would appreciate a brief paragraph about yourself, including your location and what you’re seeking in a potential dominant partner.

If you’re interested in discussing this further, feel free to send me a chat.