Trying something different with the title this time :) I know reaching out can be a big step, so I want to give you as clear a picture as possible of who I am right off the bat. Let's dive into some dealbreakers and non-negotiables to save us both some time and see if we match:
Orientation | Single, Monogamous |
Location | Europe (EU citizen or ok with relocating) |
Have/Want kids | No |
Alcohol/smoking/drugs etc | No |
Religious | No (I'm agnostic) |
Chatting | Comfortable with voice dalls (text chats first ok) |
I'm looking for a genuine long-term relationship and hope to connect with someone who also has this need for companionship in a connection first and foremost. Being included is a huge deal for me. I'd like that mutual permission for me and the other person to understand each other deeply, learn what we're thinking, feeling and being fully vulnerable and honest with each other, being comfortable with our truths being known and out there.
I admit. I've been hesitant to box in my notion of an "ideal partner" with too many specifics because I like keeping an open mind and don't want to exclude anyone who might very well be a fit. However, I do think it's important to share more concretely about what it is you're attracted to. For me in a romantic connection that's conventionally feminine traits like empathy, grace, sensitivity and a deep-seated affection. Especially when that someone who wears their heart on their sleeves. Physically, I'm 5'11/180cm with blue eyes, wavy dark hair, deep voice and are most drawn to petites and slimmer girls but who you are on the inside beyond the frills is most important:)
The idea of being each others complements/second halves has been something that's been appealing to me as a dynamic for a long time. It could be that you're someone that tends to feel the world very deeply and are vibrant, bubbly and energetic or have an anxious perhaps more chaotic disposition. Maybe you are dreamy/idealistic/creative or delicate/fragile/clingy and/or have some condition that colours your life like ADHD or BPD. See I'm a living calming force, and a present, unreactive person. So I feel with any of that there would be a magnetic attraction there pretty quickly as it would feel like we can balance each other out in a way, if that makes sense.
A love it or hate it thing about me though is that I can be quite sharp, analytical and direct. Not as in being mean masked as truth telling but moreso with compassion. Putting in an effort to be a good listener, sharing my thoughts and observations openly. I phrased it as a polarising thing because I know being psychoanalysed, examined, being obsessed over or treated like a puzzle is not everyone's cup of tea. Though if you're someone that always felt misunderstood in some way or you're a quality time kind of person like me you'd be in heaven. I'm a single tasker who likes to do things thoroughly with undivided attention and a bit of truth seeker. So I can't really be fulfilled without at least trying to know and understand everything there is and could be about the person I'm with for life.
Okay, I'll wrap this up here before it gets too long for everyone haha Some hobbies and conversation starters!
- Psychology/Philosophy/Spirituality
- Tech/Gaming/Documentaries/Reading
- Anime/Cosplay/J-Fashion
- Voice acting/Sound Engineering/Music prod
- Cooking/Health/Self-Improvement & DIY
If you made it this far thank you so much for your time and attention, it means a lot. As long as this post is up, you can assume I'm single and still looking so if you found any of this compelling and would like to message me don't mind the date!
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