First and foremost I’m 100%single in real life…I look good for my age and in the best shape of my life, 6’1”; weight 220lbs. I’ve gained a lot of online experience in the past three submissive women I have met online, chatted with for months who eventually ghosted me. If you have ever opened up to others online, met someone in person only to be ghosted, yes it hurts. When you invest months of time on someone only to start over again, emotionally and mentally it drains you… I was ready to give up but many of the friends I’ve met here on Reddit, you said to keep looking, just haven’t found the right submissive.

I’m looking for a long term IRL dynamic but I’m in no hurry and we can start online to build trust. I do have years of IRL experience and now over 2 years online because of the women who ghosted me. I’m interested in an experienced or inexperienced submissive female. More info on my profile, including pic. I’m searching for a longer term deeper emotional connection with a submissive who is motivated and ready to connect. I don’t play games, so don’t waste my time nor will I waste yours. I’m Sapiosexual in nature and I have 2 Grad Degrees (MPH and MPA) and a small business owner. I set my hours so I have the time to build a relationship and hopefully a D/s dynamic with a submissive female. I’ve been a mentor in the lifestyle for many years and all my previous relationships throughout my life were all D/s in nature. Most of my experience has been in BDSM training submission in Domestic Servitude, I do have limited experience in M/s and my last was a mix of BDSM kinks, domestic submission but the dynamic ended in DDlg after years in a relationship. My experiences on Reddit for the past 3 years, I have been ghosted alot by submissive women who talked about being together and even love. I’ve even met 2 of them in person. I keep my hope up that I will find one submissive who is seriously wanting to be in a wonderful D/s dynamic with an older experienced loving and caring Dominant. Last two successful dynamics were long term, lasted for more than 20 years combined. One was 24/7 and another she was from Southampton England and was long distance for the first 4 years with occasional meetings then we got married and lived together and it became a 24/7 dynamic. To be completely honest from start I am open to any situation and see where it leads. I learned many years ago, dynamics are like snow flakes no two are ever exactly the same… I would have never thought in my life at this age, I would be without a submissive to play, mentor and call my own. Most younger submissives want younger Dominants and older experienced Subs are difficult to find…tired of the B.S. perverts perving online asking for naked pics, fake inexperienced Doms or saying inappropriate remarks…demanding your submission, same crap you see from online want to be’s whatever they think they are but they are not Dominants, just perverts.

I’m a caring Dominant and need an emotional connection. I never see age as an issue but many online, I will want to meet in person as catfishing is real here online and scammers are everywhere…I would hope you will want to know Im exactly who I say I am. If you’re younger and unsure of what constitutes a good age gap relationship then I may not be for you since I’m much older. Can you be seen in public with an older man and show and be shown the affection of a loving older man and it not bother you. So if you’re motivated, honest and open to continue your education in submission especially learning or if you’re looking for experience in BDSM, let’s talk… I will admit I do have my shit together, own my home on a beautiful lake, financially independent, small business owner, travel and love road trips, domestic and international. I will never participate with anything that is illegal and that’s a Hard Limit for me. My other limits are same as most we can negotiate our limits at another time. I’m older and been active in the lifestyle all my adult life. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, I’m not vanilla in a dynamic except in aftercare but can be in a loving relationship with the right woman. I’m old school and have mentors and best friends that help me and I have helped them in the lifestyle even today and we all agree to some degree that submission is earned and negotiated through consent and never demanded or forced.

If anything I have said interests you, by all means let’s talk I’m a Dominant who can keep you interested online at a distance or in his home on the lake training you to be a submissive who wants a deeper emotional, mental, physical and spiritual connection with her inner submission and her Dominant. If this this post is still up, I’m still searching so don’t be shy and courage is not a requirement to contact me if you’re hesitant or have self esteem issues. We’re all nervous in the beginning. I have several online friends I have met here on Reddit. Be willing to have the time I deserve as vetting any potential submissive is important as is you vetting a potential Dominant for a potential partner. I will always find the time for you…I have never ghosted a submissive and ask for the same respect. Please ask questions…communication and honesty is key. I have references if you need them. Again, i’m an open book and I have nothing to hide from anyone…

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