I am sure most of us have had the not so fun experience of being ghosted by someone. Some of us have had it far more than once and it sucks every time. As an older gent, it does not get easier.

No matter your gender, you may have naively felt or thought things were going positively. Then without warning, you are blindsided. Being left in the darkness and wilderness of what happened.

The endless recurring questions of why? What did I do? Was it something I said? Along with any other narratives and ruminations that make themselves known.

I get it is hard to tell someone you aren't interested or something may have changed. Especially if you are a Woman in a pretty messed up reality. Where as a Woman, your safety and security are not guaranteed.

There are lots of unpleasant guys who don't take kind to no. Ladies have stalkers, creeps and even worse just waiting to cause some kind of harm.

But the number of people who say that they never ghost, yet do that exact thing is slightly depressing. I have been told myself many times it is just part of the game. This is just how it is and I am "too sensitive".

It is a weird time we live in with so much that feels like it is broken. It is a shame that this is one of the accepted ways that we treat each other.

I know this process is far from easy. But even small dashes of hope are already a precious commodity. One that is difficult to hold onto at the best of times.

Repeatedly riding the emotional and mental rollercoaster of wow I feel happy. That was nice how we seemingly connected. Looking forward to talking and sharing whatever is on each other's hearts and minds.

To then experience the complete sucker-punch and bottoming out of whatever you had invested of yourself. Maybe it was a day, or even weeks or whatever timeframe involved. But it all ends with that same unpleasant result.

It is neither enjoyable or fun. I truly wish we could just treat each other with compassion, empathy, respect and understanding. Honest and open communication that allows us to say the difficult things. To at least offer some solace or closure to that chapter.

I know I am far from perfect. I have my history and the baggage that we all do. It comes with the age thing funnily enough. But for some reason, I thought the difference in ages might make it not easier but more aligned in purpose.

Also I want to clarify I am not saying any one age group is to blame or the source of this. All age groups and genders are very capable of ghosting and have no qualms using it as a tool in their arsenal.

No matter what you are searching for in dating, Kink or any other kind of relationship. May you find something that makes your heart and soul sing.

Not another beautiful castle built on sand.