I'm 52 and divorced, and live in the LA area. I've been divorced for 8 years, but had a few long term post-divorce relationships. I'm kinky and always have been, but most of my long term relationships were mostly vanilla. Like a lot of people, I didn't even try to date during the pandemic, and I didn't do a great job taking care of myself. So last year I realized nothing was going to change if I didn't change them myself. I started working out, doing intermittent fasting, and over the course of the year I lost about 65 pounds, got in much better shape and felt all around younger and fitter. I'm six feet tall, and my salt-and-pepper hair has gone steadily more gray.

So I got "out there" meeting people, with a particular emphasis on kinky relationships, because ... I mean, basically, I'm a kinky perverted bastard, and while I wanted to find my person to last a long time, even a life time, I didn't want it to be strictly vanilla. I'm a Dom, but a "soft Dom"...I really like praise and power exchange, building my sub up, rather than demeaning her. Telling her she's a good girl while I spank her ass raw.

In the past, kinky soft-dom has appealed from time to time to lgs, of the ddlg variety. This is fine with me, though actual age regression is a boundary for me, they dynamic of being a daddy dom is fun and I like it. But it's only come up from time to time ... but suddenly, and I'm not entirely sure why, I am hearing from quite a few lgs. Over the past year I've heard from and gone out with a number of much younger women, most of them in their 20's. Ironically, I don't actually *prefer* a large age gap, as I find having something to talk about is just as important as physical attraction. But I'm also happy to meet anyone who's sort of bookish, kinky, cute and smart.

I don't know what it is ... maybe the gray hair? Something about me is putting out some kind of vibe that is just catnip for much younger women. Not much else has changed, I have the same good job, the same house, the same pets, the same hobbies. I'm still mostly a homebody who reads, writes, cooks, grows flowers in the garden... but suddenly I'm irresistible in a way I just wasn't before. Okay, not irresistible, that's arrogant. Appealing, I guess I mean. I am not complaining, mind you ... but it's hard to navigate anything more than casual dating with someone who is substantially younger. Gents who have found younger partners, is there something in particular you've done that attracted them? And ladies who are attracted to older daddies ... is there something an older guy does that makes him stand out to you?