Hi I'm an older male now 60. I just thought I'd post this account to encourage both the younger women who are attracted to older men as well as us older men who seek a relationship with a younger woman.

I became divorced from a same age spouse of 30 years in 2017. We tried to make it work but to many differences for too long. The main one being that she was unable to openly discuss anything beyond a surface level which over time was a main factor in driving us apart.

So at 56 I found myself on my own. I have always been attracted to younger women. I can't fully describe the dynamic, sure there is physical attraction but I can be physically attracted to a wide age range from 20 ish to 70. So that isn't the main thing.

I think a large part of it is having a partner who wants to interact with me on every level and doesn't have as many filters, fears, and skepticism that often seems to come with age. Also a thirst to learn and to share, teach me about themselves. These qualities seem to be far more present in younger women.

I never really thought I could have a relationship with a significant age gap as I believed the lie that younger women just wouldn't want an older guy. I started looking on dating apps etc.. and had a social chat app that wasn't a dating app.

On the chat app I made friends with a 32 year old Asian woman, I had waited a couple years before looking so I was now 58. I have been a public speaker, teacher type my whole life so am comfortable discussing pretty much any subject and I told her to feel free to ask anything. She is a well educated woman and spoke 4 languages and worked in management. We chatted for about a year and then one day she invited me over.

She initiated a monogamous FWB type relationship and for 2 years it was one of the most exciting times in my life. She wasn't looking for anything more than an intimate friendship with an older man.

I was extremely happy, and still am, to know that a woman half my age would seek me out and have a relationship on that level with me.

We likely would still be seeing each other today but her work required her to relocate to a country I could not move to.

So ladies there are older men who are gentlemen and want a real relationship, I would have married her if she would have been open to it, but she preferred to stay single.

Men there are younger woman who desire and seek older men. They just need to feel appreciated and respected.

It is true that finding a good match is not easy but don't give up just be yourself and be honest.