The factors of the backstory lead into the emotional attraction to younger partners and lead into several questions I'd like advice about.

As a child at 10 years old, I was a caregiver for my uncle who was bound to a wheelchair as a quadriplegic. I spent more time as a caregiver for him than spending time with my own father. I truly appreciate caring for my loved ones. It gives me a sense of purpose and helps my heart to feel like I'm helping put a thumb on the scale of justice.

Fast forward ten more years...

I became a father from a short term romantic relationship that didn't work out.

I have always been a "summer Dad" and "weekend Dad" to my son (who just turned 21 one month ago). His mother and I have been divorced since he was born. I've fought endlessly in court for more visitation rights to spend time with my only blood family member remaining.

In the past five years, the age of the women that I have held any interest in has stayed around 28-32 years old and generally they already have children as well as them having a breeding kink.

The last woman I had any type of romantic or sexual intimacy with was 32 years old, making her closer to my son's age than my own.

The problems always arise out of immaturity, insecurities and the social awkwardness of my younger partner, by them attempting to feign maturity in public settings while reverting to a "Daddy Dom, infantile bratty little girl" in private. More often than not, my partners have already been groomed by another partner they have had and that tends to set the tone for unrealistic expectations of the current relationship.

Besides having a parade of partners which have yielded nothing but frustrations, I have given up on dating until I get on top of my own sexuality and state of mind.

I don't have any desire to emotionally or intellectually instruct someone on how to act in public or private, but that desire to be a caregiver remains ... and it directly relates to my own emotional failings to being physically absent for my biological child and my former experience with being a caregiver to a disabled adult.

So, here's my questions...

First, does anyone else have an age gap relationship which doesn't focus on the "DD/lg" dynamic, and if so, how long have you been together? (Question for the younger person in the relationship)

Second, does anyone else have a related "caregiver kink" or does your previous life experiences as a caregiver lend to an age gap kink? (Question for the older person in the relationship)

Third, does having adult children who are closer in age to your partner ever make you feel like you're taking advantage of someone else/ (being taken advantage of) simply because of the age difference without many of the other factors in play?