I have trouble following up after dates. And if I am being honest, it’s a more broader problem.

Now, I know that the rule is to wait three days after a date before contacting your date again. And that the onus is on the man to make the first contact.

I have had some pretty spectacular dates where my date and I are quite smitten with each other and the conversation flows like wine on an Italian table. After the date however when I text them or try to initiate contact again, they just seem to lack the enthusiasm they had earlier.

I have had a similar problem with friends. I once spent a summer with a bunch of guys and we developed a deep bond that would last a lifetime, or so I thought. We were in touch on and off while I was back home and a couple of years later I moved to the US and tried to get in touch but they were very lukewarm in their attitude towards me. Not at all like how they were when we met earlier.

I am an extrovert and I like to converse, share and laugh a lot. I am also the first one to hit you up and say something mundane but funny.

Am I doing something wrong? I don’t want to keep losing people because I am making a cultural faux pas that I am unaware of. Am I coming off too strong. Is the right thing to do is keep people hanging which I find extremely rude.

English is not my first language, so please be kind. I apologize for the awful structure of my post.

Edit: I just want to thank everyone for their replies. So far what I have learned is

1. Don’t follow the 3 day rule
2. If you like it, go get it.
3. Be breezy. Don’t take dates too seriously, if it’s supposed to happen, it’ll happen.