I've always been one of those chronically single people. I'm 30. I've been on a lot of dates that have gone nowhere. I've started being kind of picky over who I actually meet up with and go on about two dates a year or so (the queer woman dating pool is very small). I've dated two women somewhat seriously. The first one lasted 8 months and the second one lasted 6 months. I enjoyed my time with them, but they weren't as into it as I was and each of them broke it off.

All in all, I'm okay with my life. I like my alone time and I feel pretty independent and can take care of my own needs. I think I'm a pretty good catch. I have a good career, good friends, and things that I'm interested in. However, being single really gets to me sometimes. Whenever I get the attention of someone I like, I try to make the most of it because it's been so scarce in my life. I like feeling loved and cared for. I like holding hands and forehead kisses. I like holding someone when they have a bad day or call them up for a snuggle when I'm having a bad day. There's really no substitute for these things. As much as you can love yourself, it's never the same thing.

I always hear, "don't settle for less!" "don't settle for crumbs, you deserve a loaf!" but what if there is no loaf for me? I am grateful for crumbs; they're better than the nothing I've become accustomed to.

It's not easy to find someone that you have a good connection with. I want to take it in any form it comes in, as long as it's not abusive.

I hope a few of you can relate. Would you rather have crumbs, or nothing? Or wait around for a loaf that may or may not come? Are you confident a fulfilling long-term relationship will happen for you? Do you say no to all halfass relationships?