for just a little background I(F21) met K(F21) when i was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend. i was knew to the town when i moved in and searched for friends on Bumble and we happened to hit it off really well and she only lived the next town over. we talked often, hung out often, bond of some things to do together such as going out to eat, listening to music, even wanting to create our own together etc.

despite all of those things she is generally a judgemental person. no matter what she believes and lives, and if it happens to change, she looks down on others that aren’t doing the same thing as her. for example, when i was with my ex, we were fully in a serious and committed relationship, went on trips together and planned to get married (obviously that didnt work out. after 2 years of giving him the benefit of the doubt i decided to end things). during that time she said i was being crazy to be in such a committed relationship at my age and that i should have fun and explore other things. (which i was doing? so obviously she was hinting at me being promiscuous) she even felt okay with asking if my boyfriend at the time was open to threesomes and that was when everything just took a turn. i didnt talk to her much after that and distanced myself from her without being rude. we would only hang out at her dad’s place or somewhere public. i wouldnt invite her to my ex’s to hang out.

time goes by and i break up with my ex and move back in with my parents. during that time i was stupid enough to invite her over for us to go out to eat, have drinks and for her to spend the night with me. (she lived 40 minutes away at this point). once we got back to the house after our events, she got upset with me that i was on the phone with a friend that had called me when getting back and its wasnt more than a few minutes that she was cursing at me, insulting me and saying that i was being rude to her and ignoring her. i told her i wasnt and that my friend wanted to talk, it wasnt gonna be much longer and in fact i hung up a few secs later just to prove my point. that didnt help her at all and she stormed out my room angrily, to the front do and out and slammed it on the way (my parents were sleeping so on her behalf i had to apologize for her and i felt ashamed)

ever since then i didnt talk to her until it was 4 months later and she’s apologizing to me and saying how she was genuinely sorry and disappointed. me being the person that i am, i told her i’d give it another shot at us being friends as i really did enjoy talking and spending time with her. but that was another mistake because despite her being on this “spiritual journey” and becoming a “better person” it was very common for her again to be judgemental towards me. to say what i believed and the lifestyle i live isnt right and didnt fit her script. whatever that didnt reference God as she became Christian wasn’t important and i definitely am not in that point in my life right now. she’ll do this thing where we go back and forth (respectfully as i tell her that i dont want it to lead into an argument) and says that she doesnt want to talk to me or be friends anymore. and i say okay… she’s done this like 3 times and i finally got to a point where i was sick of it. didnt even have her number, didnt care to have much conversation with her or hang out, didnt say happy birthday etc.

flash forward to now, i’m actually in another long term relationship after not talking for sometime. she sends me a messaging saying “hey, it’s K just wanted to ask how you were doing?” in response i said “i’m doing fine. i appreciate you asking but there’s no reason for you to keep coming back to question that constantly.” (bc this is how she does this asking if im okay and coming off as if she’s concerned) she responding saying that “she doesnt understand why i dont acknowledge her and am an asshole to her when she’s working on getting better and wants to talk to me.” to that i told her it was bc of how wishy washy she is and even with that she was confused… i was done explaining myself so i told her that i would be blocking her number and to take care and i wish her the best.

AITA for doing that sort of thing and not wanting to speak to her or be friends ever again?