*** I don’t want to argue. I just want to discuss respectfully***

My opinion is that Pam doesn’t have a leg to stand on to be upset with Jim about accepting the new job in Philly.

I know it’s controversial but look at the history of their relationship. Pam and Jim have a history and pattern of behavior that allowed Jim to make this choice.

1.) When Jim impulsively bought his parents house he was nervous to show Pam. Her response wasn’t anger, confusion, or even “let’s talk about this later.” She was thrilled and loved the big gesture.

2.) Jim didn’t tell Pam he bought the tickets to Maid of the Mist in Niagara. It was a back up plan. When he told her and they impulsively ran to go get married Pam clearly loved it.

3.) Jim wakes up one day and tells Pam “I want to marry you today” and Pam jumps on the plan to elope to Ohio. (Although this wasn’t something they followed through on she still loved his spontaneous offer)

This pattern of Pam approving and appreciating Jim’s quick decision making is standard for them. Although the show says they talked about it and decided to decline the offer, Jim changing his mind on a moment notice isn’t uncharacteristic. I don’t think Pam has a fight to be mad at Jim for making a major life choice impulsively. She’s always allowed it and condoned it before. I honestly think he felt he could make the choice because of Pam’s reaction to past experiences