Share ko lang what most straight people mistakingly do that they thought would help us open up but does the opposite.

Growing up, I knew that I was already giving away some gay signals that ping any gaydar. Tipong mga galawan ng isang paminta. I would usually stare at guys more. Minsan, tataas ang boses or magkakaroon ng arte moments. Minsan lalabas yung difference ng taste ng clothes, music, and preferences in life. Lucky for me, I have multiple circle of friends na progressive mag-isip. I know that they got my back and that if the time came na mag-come out ako sa kanila ay high ang possibility na they won't judge me.

Unfortunately, they always do THIS thing na alam kong kahit ibang queer guys like me would find irritating. And I bet you've experienced this once or twice in your life, kahit pa jokingly or meant as sincerely.

Have you ever experienced this scenario:

You and your friends are just laughing your ass off and then you suddenly did something and then they would laugh and joke around and say:

"Bading ka ba? Kung bading ka, okay lang naman, tanggap ka pa rin namin. Umamin ka na kasi." and then followed by a laugh?

For sure if you are a straight person (especially if you are a guy) and you noticed that your friend acts gay, nasabi mo na yan.

You see, that happened to me multiple times na. I've been to that spot where they would encourage me on the spot to admit as if they were teasing. Like as if they are saying:

"Huwag mo na itago. Alam naman na namin. Halata kaya!"

And yeah, maybe their intentions were pure and that maybe they are serious about it at one point, pero let me tell you this, THAT doesn't equate to assurance for us. Hindi niya pinapanatag ang loob namin.

No one wants to be on THAT spot. No one wants to be outed on the spot at sa public, kahit pa sabihin mong intimate friends yang mga yan. Hindi lahat kaya yun.

It gives me anxiety. It is like a trap. It's like a "gotcha" moment that could give them a chance to tease you more.

Kaya naman ako, kahit na I suspect a person, never ko yun sasabihin sa kaniya. Never ko yung gagawin sa kaniya.

And so I also hope that you, the reader, would never ever do that (or expetience) that in your life.