Last year my brothers and I caught our dad chatting another girl and asking for a kiss. We confronted him. He tried to gaslight us that it wasn't malicious even though he attempted to change his password when he realized my brother got into his account.

He even gaslit me saying na "ganyan lang talaga lalaki" and when I asked him what if I did what he did and he said "mali yun kasi babae ka." Even his friends have mistresses daw so it's normal for guys. Putanginamo mo.

He never did apologize to us or my mom. My mom forgave him too soon and too fast. Something about not wanting a broken family even though we're all adults na. Something about him being good to her back then naman.

Even now when I bring up the issue he gets mad that I haven't forgiven him yet.

Mind you this isn't the first time he was a terrible father. And every time I was the only one to call him out on his bullshit while my mom would pretend to play as mediator but ultimately forgive him or never ask him to apologize.

He said gay people deserve to be killed because they spread AIDS in front of my still-in-the-closet brother years ago while we were on our car on our way home from church. I was 14? 15? Kinontra ko talaga sya. Sabi ko napaka-hypocritical mo kagagaling mo lang sa simba. Na homophobic sya. We got into a shouting match inside the car. My mom didnt stand up for me or support me. No one did. I ended up getting out of the car and going home by myself. Di ko alam na gay kapatid ko noon pero this incident led to him resenting our dad. I dont regret shouting at my dad kasi bilang ate at least napakita ko sa kapatid ko na I won't let our dad just be like that.

Maraming ibang incidents pa na naging homophobic, racist, and misogynistic sya. All those times pinatawad ng nanay ko. Ako lang sumisita. Eventually when my brothers grew up sumama sakin sa paninita sa tatay ko.

But he gets extra angry when I'm the one who calls him out on his shit. He gets so mad when he realizes I'm not as forgiving as my mom. Sobrang galit na nanggigigil sya. Manggigil ka. Wala akong pake. Kasi I'm not you and I'm not my mom. Di kita itotolerate

Edit: ano meron dito sa post ko bat napapa-dm mga guys?? Legit curious