Alright, hello everyone. The story below is true and I am looking for comments of advice please!

Let’s start with I met him 7 years ago. I’ve always thought he was attractive. I am a gay man however, and he only acted straight around me until about three years ago. I seen him at a party and he whispered in my ear that I was looking sexy that night. I told him I had no idea he swung that way and he told me he usually doesn’t.

I let it go after he texted me the next day and told me not to tell anyone. I agreed I wouldn’t and didn’t.

We have hung out off an on after that, but really only as friends. There was the occasional conversation where he said I was looking amazing or that he wanted to do something with me but I didn’t take any of it to heart.

This last weekend, we hung out for two days with multiple other people. When most of the other people stepped out to go to the store and we hung back, he asked me for a blowjob. He said his conditions were that I didn’t tell anyone and that I didn’t start obsessing over him. I agreed, lieing through my teeth about the obsession part hehe.

That night leaving my house he got into a car accident and arrested when driving some friends home. I was distraught. This triggered somthing in me, maybe a trauma bond? Either way he spend 36 hours in jail and each 30 mins I obsessively checked the jail roster. Praying for him to get out, under the impression he was thinking about me the whole time. I didn’t eat for 42 hours and was only talking to people about him. I went crazy.

He got out yesterday and called me. He said he wasn’t upset with me and that he was pleased to hear that I cared. I didn’t tell him how crazy I went though. Today, he stopped by my house and asked me to come outside to give him a hug. He knew how distraught I was about it and I’ve been obsessing over how I can help him. Even thinking about paying his full legal fees!!

It was a brief interaction today, but it fed my obsession. I told him I loved him via text after, but I made sure to add in a friend way because he was taking too long to respond. He texted me he loved me too, didn’t specify what way tho hehe. 😜

Okay so now my thoughts of him are all day everyday. I can’t think of anything else. What are some tips with this specific situation that I should do to get over him. I really don’t want to continue it’s honestly a little debilitating. Do you think he likes me ??