I been a bit more active in this sub ever since I joined a week ago, so I thought to post my experiences and suggestions.

I'm not affiliated with Oasis Aqualounge.

Before you make any post on here, definitely go check out their FAQ page, chances are your questions will be answered on there. There are also tons of useful information as well, like how they have a colour wristbands system to express what you're looking for! Also take time to explore r/swingers to learn about the community.

My experiences

So I first visited Oasis a few years back with my ex-bf & gf (MFF poly), I was new to the swinger scene while our bf was more involved. It seemed like a fun place, watching others/being watched in a sex & kink positive environment. We ended up going to a hotel near by with a MF couple and did soft swap.

It wasn't until recently that I started visiting Oasis again, as a single woman this time. I'm into more spontaneous fun these days, so whenever I feel like it I'll make my way to Oasis, usually on a Friday or Saturday. I'll spent some time at the pool, have a couple of drinks, chat with people and enjoy the vibes. Sometimes I feel like I'm there more for the facilities, than the people lol.

Fridays & Saturdays

Single man are not allowed to be in Oasis on Fridays and Saturdays. I do not recommend new couples or single woman to attend Oasis outside of those two days, not until you're more familiar with the community.

If you're a new couple...

Before you even look at Oasis' website, ask yourself and your partner why do you want to go? Swinging can be extremely complicated. Set the expectations and boundaries with your partner, likes, dislikes, etc. I do not recommend couples to just jump into a full swap on their first visit. Get comfortable with the vibes at Oasis first, watching people/being watched. Treat it as a "networking" event where you find other couples that matches you compatibility.

Do a soft swap on your second visit. You and your partner are still together? Still in love with each other and the soft swap didn't cause issues in the relationship? Do a full swap on your third visit. Some people may think that's being overly cautious. I have read too many posts on here on how a couple jump straight into a full swap and it ended the relationship.

So again, TALK to your partner on why you want to go to Oasis. TALK before, TALK during, and TALK after.

If you're a single woman...

You will be the most popular person there. If you're a bisexual woman, you may be addressed as an "unicorn" in the community. It's a bit of a controversial term, some likes it, some don't. You're in the position to pick who you want to play with, be careful with this power.

If you're a single man...

Oasis has a page dedicated to single man who wants to attend the club. As I said before, single man are not allowed to attend the club other than Sunday - Thursday. There's a reason for that. Many single man do not understand the essence of swinging.

Even if a couple is looking for a single man to join them...you're extremely overpopulated. So think about what makes you so different and special from other single man? If you think it'll be easy to find someone to hook up with at Oasis because it's a sex/kink-positive environment, think again. If you think you can "out-dominate" the bf/husband of a couple, swinging is not for you. Save your money and hire an escort instead.

For the love of god, do not ask single woman if they're willing to be your "guest" so you can attend on a Friday or Saturday. I seen this kind of request all of here and Fetlife. It's not what the community stands for and no sane single woman will take you up on that offer. If you're really into swinging, find a partner that's into it first.

Age

I have been reading a lot of age-related posts recently, all in the early 20s age range. I was in my mid-20s when I first visited Oasis and participated in swinging. I felt like I was the baby in the group. Most of the participates were 30-40s. In my opinion, you're too young. If you're a young couple, you haven't built your relationship with your partner strong enough to be swinging. Most couples (some will think otherwise) will also not be interested in you. You might remind them of their child(ren). I recently turned 30, I can't imagine looking at anyone under 25 sexually.

Anyway, these are just my thoughts. It doesn't represent the entire swinging community, but I like to think most of my beliefs are align with the majority.