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So Iâm rewatching the show again and weâre at the cringy Nanny Carrie storyline where we see Haley treat Nathan like he had an actual affair (which he didnât). Could he have said ânoâ or âstopâ with more force? Sure. But he still said no and stop and those facts still matter.
And her comment to him at the party make it pretty clear that she has always looked down on Nathan, despite his personal growth as a person.
Iâm not saying that she doesnât have the right to feel hurt about the whole thing, but I do think that sheâs treating Nathan unfairly here.
What do yâall think???
I think she was harsh with him for sure
But she was also dealing with a lot at once. Nathan becoming absent after his dream shattered, raising Jamie solo for that time, starting a teaching job, etc
Seeing him in the shower with Carrie, finding out from Carrie about the kiss, how Nathan was watching Carrie swim naked
These arenât minor things. They were still recovering from Nathans depression and absenteeism and were already on fragile ground
Iâve seen marriages end over less
Also Chris Keller was a full adult at the time too
Youâre comparing people in different stages of life is my point
Even legally, consequences are different for a reason
A minor isnât going to have the same consequences as an adult
Also what Haley did as a teenager does not justify what Nathan did as an adult
Youâre comparing a teenaged Haley to an adult Nathan
It is definitely a bullshit double standard
And we also see Nathan looking uncomfortable/worried a couple of those times
He was a victim of Carrie
My comments are more geared towards how things looked from Haleyâs perspective
She doesnât know that Nathan is uncomfortable because heâs hiding these things from her. She doesnât know heâs a victim
With time sheâs just finding out all this has been happening for months and it appears shady
Each time new details come out. First the shower then the kiss and then the nakedness
When your husband doesnât communicate that X, y, and z has been happening for that amount of time, it brings out a lot of doubt and insecurity
what Haley did on tour doesnât justify whatâs happening in their adult life
18 isnât magical. But the law and society is more lenient on minors because of where they are in their development and decision making skills
Nathan doesnât describe it as sexual assault. He says in therapy that he enjoyed the flirting and the attention and that was partially why he didnât disclose the flirting to Haley
Haleyâs gives him the benefit of the doubt post shower eventually. And then finds out about the kiss and the whole swimming naked thing
This is after their marriage was already on fragile ground since Nathan lost his dream and was absent
I donât know a lot of people who would be all smiles walking in on that shower scene
I think because he was probably battling depression and wasnât being part of the family right before the nanny incident
So that combined just snowballed one horrible event after another
Thatâs why benefit of the doubt was hard
Because she did give the benefit post shower scene but found out he hid the kiss too and she found out from Carrie
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And one who has been hiding the flirtations. He even admits that he enjoyed the attention in therapy