Hi everyone! I’m a college student right now, whose long distance relationship with someone they’re very close to just got ended. It was over a fairly miscommunication (I used the wrong verbiage to describe us) and apparently this was a breaking point for a lot of bottled up things with them. For context, I have terrible relationship OCD. I went a while without asking for reassurance and they told me to do so, and I’ve gotten better at it. Even yesterday when I had a feeling something was wrong/imminent, they told me everything was fine and they weren’t upset nor planning to stop our talking. This morning, I get a text ending things.

How do I deal with this? How do I go forward? I know usually people are upset after breakups, this this shit is all-consuming. I’ve been physically nauseous all day and can’t seem to get a grasp on myself to do anything. These “breakups” (for lack of a better word) have happened before and been resolved fairly quickly, so who knows if this is even permanent.

This feels like it’s reassuring everything I’ve thought about my relationships with people being fake or for them to secretly be out to get me/hurt me. I have friends, but admittedly not a crazy amount of them. Messaged a few and got replies, but it just isn’t the same. Any kind words or advice is appreciated