Hi all--my 19-yo daughter recently, at her request, got tested for ADHD, autism spectrum disorders and OCD, and the psychiatrist told her she has all of them to significant degree, which wasn't too surprising. I'm getting clearer on the fact that I have a lot of related behaviors too, and have pretty much my whole life: * I've had a series of limerence problems, fixating on women (most of whom I was never actually involved with)--lots of intrusive thoughts, mostly just wanting to reach out, spend time with them, etc. I've had a particularly intense episode going on the last few months. The last one pretty much cost me my last job--which wasn't a great loss, but still. * I often can't stop compulsively checking email and social media, particularly when I've sent out social invitations and am waiting for replies * I feel like I'm compelled to find as many occasions as I can to spend time with friends, mostly 1-1 just taking walks or meeting for coffee or meals--I'm up to 5-8 or so most weeks, almost all of which I initiate, since a bout of anxiety started about four months ago * I fixate on job issues when things aren't going well, particularly people I'm having trouble dealing with, and it can keep me up at night or first thing in the morning for extended periods when I should be sleeping * I've always picked at my skin and often hair * I've had periods when I tapped and counted things compulsively

I'm trying to figure out coping strategies for some of these individually but also whether there's anything I can do to deal with the overall tendency toward compulsions and intrusive thoughts. I'm waiting for a therapist to be available (yay post-Covid US mental health system). In the meanwhile I've been switched by a psychiatric nurse practitioner with a lot of psych-meds experience from Prozac, which I'd been on with varying success for 4 years, to Viibryd, which I do think is helping. Before the limerence problem 4 years ago, I'd been on a series of SSRI/SNRIs with pretty good success for the preceding decades.

Advice? Sorry my question is so open-ended, but I'm really just starting to think about this. The limerence is worse the last two times--before that I wouldn't have even cited it to a therapist as a problem except for a couple of intense episodes in my 20s--and the compulsive socializing is entirely new. So while I knew I had some OCD tendencies--skin-picking, counting, etc.--they really didn't seem like things that affected major life issues.