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Comment section was overwhelmingly NTA. Shamed for sleeping with men too early, shamed for wanting to wait. Men apparently don’t want to wait and if you slept with previous men quickly, I guess you have to keep doing that but also men don’t want a woman with a “high body count”. Just can’t win with people like these.
What does that have to do with this issue?
Yes, that sort of thing is incompatible with what I want. If someone isn't sexually attracted to me then fine, we can go our separate ways But I would be offended if she tried to string me along.
And I would not want to be in a romantic relationship with someone who didn't want sex. Been there, done that, and wasted far too much of my life on someone who didn't give a shit about my needs.
Eh, just because the guy is "nice" doesn't mean he's going to stick around for 6 months on the off chance that they a.) manage to stay together that long, and b.) are sexually compatible when they do have sex. I value my time way too much to agree to something like that, and I think most guys would also.
As a guy, I have to say I have been offended by this type of thing in the past, but it'snot because I didn't value the relationship. Instead it's because of the implication that I'm not "good enough" to sleep with unless I bring something else to the table. If a woman doesn't want to sleep with me until I've somehow proven myself then I'm going to take that as a sign she was never attracted to me in the first place.
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Because that's time you could have spent dating someone else (assuming this is a monogamous relationship). You might completely miss out on someone way better for you just to wait 6 months and discover you're sexually incompatible.