Wholesome, married, ENM, Demi Viking, who is too curious for my own good. Huge science nerd, Mother of Corgis, Protector of the kitty realm (volunteer at a shelter), Cake Decorator on the side, chunky but funky. I also have what seems to be like a million plants and hobbies.

Feminist, BLM, Climate Activist, Fully Vaxxed despite my body's revolt.

What I'm NOT looking for:

1, Hookups 2, "Hey" messages 3, "What's up?" Messages 4, Party boys, in any sense of the word 5, Couples looking for a "third" 6, Men looking for a side piece 7, Men looking for just a FWB 8, I can't be attracted to anyone who doesn't know their homonyms. 9, Someone who hasn't gone to therapy, hasn't thought about it, or claims they "don't need it" 10, Smokers (cigarette) 11, Men more than 10 years my senior 12, Flat Earthers, Anti Vaxxers, Science denying BS

I like long hair on guys, tattoos, and pets. Bonus points for cat dads!

I am basically Pam Poovey.

People describe me as "A treasure", and my husband, says I'm a "massively adorable dork" We date seperate, and go to couples therapy.

When I go out into the sun, people yell that Gondor calls for aid.

5'7 ish, red hair with side undercut, glasses, sarcastic and dark sense of humor, INTJ, enjoy deep meaningful conversations and conversing about science subjects. I was the "gifted" kid in school, so you can only imagine the amount of anxiety I have over life now, add in the ADHD and soul crushing depression of the world and you have a look inside my brain. I may not be okay, but at least I'm funny?

I'm a fairly big shithead and love pushing peoples buttons to see what makes them tick.

I'm looking for an actual deep connection with someone I can meet up with eventually. I don't want hookups, so don't bother trying.

I also prefer you send an actual message as opposed to a Reddit chat.