TL/DR at the end it's a long one sorry. I will also give a sfw face/body pic, plus a semi-nsfw body pic at the start of convo so there are no surprises.

I am going to start this with honesty and a bit of a rant. I have been with my wife for 13 years, I am now essentially in an open relationship that I do not want. I spent the last 4-5 months fighting it and it's been miserable. I decided to embrace this and see what is out there for me. If you stopped reading, sorry but if you are still here, great.

About me: I am 37 years old, 6'2 ft tall, 230 lbs (working on getting down to 210ish). I have blue/green eyes, glasses, black crew cut hair, both ears pierced and same with tongue. Plus I have a few tattoos. My interests include tabletop and board games, movies, video games, puzzles, drawing, writing and painting. Those are usually cold and rainy months. When it's warm, hiking, walking, exploring, swimming etc. I also like to partake or attempt others hobbies and activities.

What I want: someone to talk and connect with, build possibly into a relationship or something similar. If that isn't your cup of tea, I am alright with friends and friends with benefits as well. Want everyone to be alright with the dynamic.

Our Dynamic: Open marriage with rules in place. These rules are: Marriage and family are priority, emergencies, illness etc. First meet she can be present whether it's sex or drinks/dinner. Not an option that will always be utilized but want you aware. She will be aware of when and where we meet up. You (new partner) will also be aware of our comings and goings as the relationship progresses. There are more rules but those mostly pertain to us. Hopefully you are still here.

The Connection Partner: I want a woman 21 to 50, attraction is important hence why I will send a pic at the beginning BUT appearance doesn't matter to me. I have preferences but no type so I like all types of body types, hair types etc. My preference is darker complexion and darker hair but otherwise I am alright with all. Want someone self-sufficient because I want a partner in life. Someone honest, trustworthy, compassionate, caring and driven.

The Hookup Partner: Like above, I want someone 21 to 50 that is open-minded and kinky. I love oral, giving more than receiving but I enjoy all types of sex, from vanilla to bdsm lol. I know some people just want to fuck and cuddle and others wants to wam bam thank you maam and either is fine with me. I enjoy dom/sub where I can be either but I have more fun Domming. I am pretty, go with the flow, but enjoy pegging, bondage, D/s, cum play etc. Just let me know what you like and I might be into it. Hard limits are scat, blood, permanent marks, most extreme stuff.

Wrapup: If you have read this long thank you hopefully you are wanting to talk. I just want to write that I know what I want but still not sure that I want to move on. So this could just be friends or it could evolve into something. I also want to add that I am a shell of my former self. This process has taken its toll, my hope is that this will provide clarity for myself.

I also hear a lot of people reading this and saying, Leave. We have built a life together, a family and I am not the type to throw away and get a new one. I want my wife, family and life, this could change tomorrow, in a month or a year but right now I want what I want. There is a possibility that I want to leave, this open relationship ends or I enjoy the dynamic. It's a journey of self discovery I guess is the best way to put it.

TL/DR:

37 yo male, in an open relationship he decides to embrace, looking for sex, connection or conversation from a woman 21 to 50. Message with pic and if you are looking for conversation, a hookup or both.

Hope to hear from you all