I can't help but feel there's no way to keep these types of posts from feeling impersonal. And I know the past couple years have fried my attention span and as I assume it may have done the same to you, I'm going to try to run this both ways.

I'm 35, cis male, pan & demisexual, kinky BDSM-friendly on the D side of the slash, and ethically non-monogamous in a happy life-long partnership. I'm primarily looking for fun, flirty friendships that may develop into more. Online interactions are fun and while I'd love to buy you a cup of coffee, I prefer some connection and discretion before meeting.

I enjoy nerdy people, even if their interests don't necessarily overlap with mine. I personally enjoy learning about all kinds of new things, so tell me about your latest nerdgasm. Personally I love music, especially metal and synthwave. I enjoy jogging, weightlifting, day hikes, and tent camping. I like creative writing though I don't practice as much as I probably should. I've also been trying to relearn chess and get better at jigsaw puzzles.

I have very little expectation beyond you existing as a kind and respectful human being. If any of the above sounds vaguely interesting, reach out. For those not completely turned off at the current word count, I wrote you a letter that continues below…

Dear Potential Connection,

I hope you're doing well. Life is too short for too many bad days, but that's not anything we can directly control. Hopefully hard work and the law of averages will see us though.

I don't know about you, but I feel like everyone could use as many safe spaces as possible. People and places they can be either authentic self, somewhere they can ask any random question that comes to mind, and explore what their concept of identity means to them. Not exactly a groundbreaking concept, but still a challenge to find.

Me, personally? I feel like I've taken many formative steps in my life, but there's still new experiences and refinements to add in. Maybe it's a fool's errand, but I keep searching for more self-understanding. I enjoy my life as-is, but I wonder what revelations I've yet to uncover about myself.

I enjoy interacting with people as I get to stretch beyond my own personal perception, the limits of understanding within my head. You're probably more interesting than I am, and that's exciting. That's not to set an expectation that everything has to be mile-a-minute excitement, the quiet moments are powerful too.

I could continue, but I've droned on long enough. If any of my ramblings catch your attention, reach out. I wish you the best in whatever is set in front of you.