I'm a radically honest daydreamer coming into my queerness later in life with delight and wonder. The last year has been full of self-discovery and growth, and it's been hilariously wonderful discovering more of who I am right alongside my 13-year-old kid who's also discovering who they are and where they fit.

I'm here for real love, but without expectations. Longevity or steps up some arbitrary relationship escalator do not dictate the strength, worthiness, or value of a connection. I've found love in one night or after years of friendship, and I believe that if God exists, they're made of our love for one another and capacity for good. Some days it's hard to have faith in humanity, but it turns out I can't help it.

I'm an empath, and my heart is expansive. I'm done caring what anyone thinks about the way I form connections with other humans. I have historically dated cis men, and am still open to that, but am especially interested in exploring the magic of the world with enbys, androgynous cuties, fellow queers, and everything in between.

I mesh best with folks who are willing to be vulnerable with me, and understand that forward movement and growth depend on learning from our mistakes, listening to the oppressed even when it's uncomfortable, then confronting difficult feelings with grace.

My favorite food is melted cheese, I have a weird but abiding craving for eggs in the hole at breakfast time, and I love dinosaurs. I work full time in an administrative job, and in my spare time I love to make art, write, read, go to the movies, and float in lakes or oceans connecting with the vast experience of water.

I love big and wear my heart on my sleeve. I am silly and sassy, fat and sensual, wide open, and lose myself in daydreams and art projects on a regular basis. I'm a sucker for those who create - whether you're a musician, artist, chef, writer, or build engines, if you're pouring your heart into creation, I want to hear about it; then make out.

Yes to witty banter, flirtations that build anticipation, copious laughter, embracing awkwardness, pleasure and joy together.

No to monogamy, sexually explicit anything before I even know your name, folks younger than their late 20s, people looking for affair partners, anti-vaxxers, and anyone who's not all-in on being pro-choice and pro-lgbtq rights.