This is something that's not always to discuss in polite society but even though you're in a strong relationship, you're still open to a casual friendship with the potential for occasionally making out and such. That, and you lean into the sincere connection angle; It'd be nice to vibe with good conversation before considering vibing in other ways.

Hopefully you and I share the same generally positive outlook and level of open-mindedness, and an understanding of being happily busy with real life (work, parenting, hobbies, figuring out dinner). Ideally we're both keen to enjoy some casual conversation, take time to get to know each other a bit as people (text/phone/coffee) and if things feel right, go from there and enjoy each other's company in other canoodling-type ways. And if it's not a fit or feelings change, we can be the mature adults we are and move on with honesty and grace.

You: In your 40s or above, a working parent that enjoys your kid(s) but still has time for a creative hobby or two, generally happy and healthy, and comfortable with who you are. You're not one to bash your spouse/partner. You're busy but willing to make time for a bonus connection to share a break with now and then.

Me: 48, 5'10", enjoy keeping fit and exercise regularly. At the point where I need reading glasses, but also like how I look in them. Business casual for work, print t-shirts/jeans/hoodies at home. Old soul in that I'm early to bed/early to rise, prefer reading print books, and trying to spend more time away from screens and doing things like day trips, learning new recipes, and taking music lessons. And if it matters (which is fair enough), my skin is darker and my head and face are shaved. My voice is pretty awesome.

Thanks for reading! I'd love to hear from you if any of this resonates (or if you read something amazing recently that you want to talk about). I don't have Reddit on my phone so I can't respond to chats. That said, if you're kind enough to send a thoughtful reply, you'll get one in return. :)