I crave deep, engaging, comfortable connections that flow naturally into exploration of desires and each other. The kind where you can see the potential almost immediately, where shared interests, playful repartee, and vulnerability lead to that beautiful slow burn of chemistry & anticipation. This is the magic I cultivate, a reminder of human potential.

I’m polyamorous, and don't believe that love, lust, devotion, or intimacy require expectations or next-steps. Things are what they are, and much of the time what they are is beautiful without comparison or labels. I have no interest in monogamy, and am in the midst of unpacking how much of my past sexuality was inherent and how much was based on cultural ‘norms,’ expectations, and messages from the media.

Up until now, I’ve mostly dated cis men, and I'm really interested in dating and loving other types of lovely humans. I have a girlfriend who is my heart & soul, a joyfriend enby partner I see less often than I'd like, and room in my heart (and bed) for more. As is often the case, the longer days (and probably all the Vitamin D I just absorbed on the best vacation I’ve ever experienced) I’m feeling a little frisky and a little lonely.

Things you should know: I’m a raging feminist and humanist. I advocate loudly and have learned to be silent and listen even when it makes me uncomfortable, because talking over the oppressed is oppression. Silence is complicity, #sorrynotsorry. If you are sad Trump got “indicated,” are not vaxxed against Covid, have ever sported a thin blue line flag or clothing item, or don’t believe that kids deserve gender care, please do not message me.

The last 15 months have been a period of growth for me. I’m cultivating my roots, simplifying, and returning to the things that make me happy - art, writing, reading more, scheduling less, and loving others. I love dinosaurs, spreadsheets, pizza, and when my kids both agree to play Minecraft at the same time and we all log in together.

Not sure what to say in a first message? Here are some free ideas:

• If you had to describe yourself using 6 fictional characters, what would your mashup be?
• Send me the Tik Tok, Reel, or YT Short that lives in your head rent free
• Tell me something you think you spend more than the normal amount of time thinking about, compared to others.
• Tell me about one of your automatic, unstoppable associations - for example, every time someone says “Question…” near me I hear Destiny’s Child - “tell me what you think about me…”