So I’m pretty new to this Reddit and just want antes to tell my coming out story. First a bit of background. I am AMAB, 32 years old. I’ve been spending a lot of time for several years trying to figure out who I am, with a large portion of that time spent figuring out what my beliefs are. I grew up Mormon and so religion was a major focus of my identity crisis when I finally started think seriously about things. (I’m an atheist now if you were wondering.

Anyway, I’ve know for quite some time that I’m pansexual, and have recognized as well that I always kind of hated everything that comes with being a man. Especially the social expectations. I don’t relate to a lot of men, I love women’s clothing and the amount of options available and always wished men had those options or that it was socially acceptable for men to wear women’s clothing.

It wasn’t until about a year ago that I was exposed to the term non-binary and what that means. I’ve thought a lot about it since and the more I thought about the more it seemed to fit me.

I finally worked up the courage to come out to my wife (married for 5 years at this time). Her reaction wasn’t unexpected. There were a few tense and stressful conversations as she worked to come to terms with the new info. In the end, after thought and discussion she has fully accepted me as I am. And we agree that our partnership means more to us than anything else. I have her full support. I couldn’t be happier.

Now I just need to work up the courage to tell her family who has become somewhat of a surrogate family for me. I’m not close with my family and I’m certain they wouldn’t understand.

Now I’m just in the process of slowly updating my wardrobe to be more in line with how I feel and how I want to present. Too bad I’m not rich so I could just buy everything I want. Haha. I’m finally on my way to feeling truly happy with myself and can be fully open about it with the person I’m closest to. Hopefully my story can help inspire others to come out. Just know that there’s someone in your life that will support you.