So, I'm AMAB and masc-leaning (basically I lean toward more genderfucky presentations of masculinity) and I don't see myself as feminine in any meaningful way - I've bounced around various labels like "demiboy" before but still haven't found anything that's stuck beyond the umbrella of "non-binary". I express my identity mostly through my fursona Leo and a few other characters exploring different angles of masculinity - Leo has basically become the "ideal me" if I could alter my body and present myself the way I'd like to IRL.

However, several times recently I've had folks compliment/flirt with me (either directly or aimed at Leo), up to and including more... salacious talk, who openly identify themselves as some variation of lesbian or sapphic (e.g. having "#GayForGirls" in their profile, identifying as a lesbian or transbian, things like that) and I'm really not sure how to feel about it. I will stress that the folks in question have been outwardly respectful toward me and my identity as far as I'm aware - I'm just struggling with the internal gender feels that are coming from this mismatch between how I see myself, and the people who are expressing an interest in me.

Right now I'm just... uncomfortable with the attention, at least in part due to dealing with former friends trying to argue that I'm "enby enough" to just pass off as a girl. Even if it's not intentional on their part, this attention from folks who are openly broadcasting their love of women and femininity showing interest in me feels at least somewhat invalidating - like, "I like girls, and I like you, so you're girl enough for me". One of the folks in question has explicitly told me that she counts non-binary masc folks in her attraction but explicitly excludes cis and trans men (i.e. people who specifically identify as men), which has just made things even harder for me to fully wrap my head around.

I don't know how to approach talking about this with these folks either, I just feel like I'd be an asshole for telling someone off for my own internal struggles... I've been on the receiving end of some vicious unloading of personal gender identity issues and insecurities, and it's made me really hesitant to push back against folks and how they see me unless it's something really blatant like active misgendering.

I'm hoping I'm not alone in having to struggle with this and that maybe some folks here have experience dealing with this sorta thing.