There's this dude I met from a dating app that I've been seeing very casually and super on/off for the past 10 months. He's very conventionally attractive and the most good looking guy I've hungout with. I (25F) haven't went down on him (27M) or had sex with him yet because he's been dragging his feet on getting std tested and I'm paranoid about that stuff. I've told him this boundary from the beginning, yet he still comes over. Last time, he drove 30 mins to come over, didn't even bring condoms cuz he knew he probably wasn't gonna get some anyway, so he basically just came hoping I'd finally give him a blowjob (I didn't). I messaged a week later asking if he wants to hangout and drink, he said no, so I left it, but he messaged me again a week after that at like 2am saying hi.

Like at this point, I'm just confused because nobody's ever waited 10 months for NOTHING. I've literally only made out with him really. I'm sure he's still on dating apps, is he just not getting enough matches?? Or does he see me like a "challenge"?